10/09/2026
A couple came to me with one recurring problem: every conversation about money ended in a fight.
But when we looked beneath the conflict, we found two very different stories.
She had grown up watching her mother hide money from her husband because of his drinking and his inability to save. Somewhere along the way, hiding money became associated with safety.
He had grown up after his father experienced a major business loss. Money became associated with uncertainty and the fear of losing everything. He became extremely cautious, anxious about spending, and very particular about finances.
Neither of them had consciously chosen these patterns.
But they were bringing their family experiences into their marriage.
Through Family Constellation work over the following month, we slowly explored the triggers beneath their financial conflicts. As they became more aware of what was being activated, they began responding differently instead of reacting from old fears.
Today, their marriage isn’t conflict-free. But they know how to navigate the difficult moments. They can pause, take a break, understand what is being triggered, and come back to the conversation differently.
Sometimes, healing isn’t about never fighting again.
It’s about no longer letting old patterns decide how you fight.
If you feel like the same conflicts keep repeating in your relationship, DM “HEAL” to explore a 1:1 session with me.
