06/05/2022
Concerning survival strategies
▸ People do what is adaptive for them to deal with the threat.
💙 We respect anger
It is essential if you are constantly in danger. Anger means movement, action. Due to anger, a person overcomes his fear. This anger is extremely important to them. They need to turn fear into anger to continue to resist.
💛 We respect avoidance
Avoiding emotions, avoiding vulnerabilities. You cannot share your fear if you are on the battlefield. It will not help to cope with the threat. The person is trying to turn off deflections or distractions. To act under pressure you need to deactivate vulnerable emotions.
🌼 Client:
"I do not know".
"I do not want to talk about it".
"Everything will be fine".
"It wasn't so scary".
"If you think logically, ...".
🌳 Therapist:
"You want to talk about it. It gives a sense of security. You have a right to it."
"You're extremely angry. It's okay. It's a part of you that you don't want to lose right now. Help me understand why it's so important to you."
👑 Man has the right to respect his survival strategy. It is an adaptive response to the threat and is now urgently needed.
🐍 The danger comes when these strategies become chronic.
❤️ We respect survival strategies - now they make a person more effective.
