13/10/2026
Today, I was disappointed.
I'd spent hours making a special birthday gift for my son, who's about to turn 15. I'd planned it, bought the materials and was genuinely proud of what I'd created.
Then, while touching up one tiny section, I accidentally transferred ink right across my design.
Hours of work, ruined in seconds.
I was devastated.
I raced back to Spotlight, bought more materials and started again, all before school pick-up so I could keep the surprise.
And I got it done.
But even after I'd worked out what to do next, I still felt disappointed.
It's been a while since I've felt that kind of disappointment. My first instinct was to fix it, move on and make it work.
But solving the problem didn't mean I wasn't still upset.
And it got me thinking about motherhood.
When our birth doesn't go to plan, we're often reminded that what matters is a healthy baby.
When our feeding journey looks different to what we imagined, we find another way.
When those first weeks at home feel nothing like we expected, we try to focus on the positives.
And of course, we can be grateful for what we have.
But gratitude doesn't cancel out disappointment.
You can be grateful your baby is here and still grieve the birth you hoped for.
You can find another way to feed your baby and still feel sad about the journey you imagined.
You can adore your baby and still struggle with the reality of those early weeks.
Sometimes, we rush to find the bright side before we've even acknowledged that something hurts.
But finding a solution doesn't mean we have to pretend we're okay.
We can acknowledge the disappointment, give ourselves space to feel it, and then find our way forward.
Today, I finished the birthday gift.
But I also needed to admit that I was upset before I could move on.
And if motherhood hasn't unfolded the way you hoped, you don't have to rush to be okay with that, either.
You can accept what is and still feel sad about what you hoped it would be.
And you don't have to pretend they don't hurt just because you've found a way forward.