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13/08/2026

Every now and then, I'll have a client who has no idea what matters to them.

Sometimes they've spent years being the peacemaker, the responsible one, the caregiver, or the one who always puts others first.

Figuring out what matters doesn't happen overnight.

It begins with being curious and asking yourself some questions.

What energises me?

What have I stopped doing because I thought it was selfish or not important?

Or because someone told me it was trivial?

If no one was around to judge me positively or negatively, if no one was there to be disappointed in me, what would I open myself up to?

When do I feel most like myself?

03/08/2026

Loneliness isn't about being alone.

Rather, it's often about the quality of the relationships you have.

Have you ever noticed that sometimes you can be surrounded by people and still feel deeply lonely?

That's because loneliness isn't about the number of conversations you have or how many people are around you.

It's about how connected you feel.

Whether you feel understood.

Whether you feel seen and heard.

And whether you feel emotionally safe enough to be vulnerable.

Being connected also isn't about constant communication or having perfect relationships.

It's not the ongoing banter you might see in sitcoms or seeing someone every single day.

Instead, it's about authenticity, compassion, mutual respect, emotional availability, and the freedom to be yourself without fear of judgement.

01/08/2026

One of the biggest misconceptions about anxiety is that we need to get rid of it before we can start living our lives.

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) offers a different perspective.

Rather than asking, "How do I stop feeling anxious?", ACT invites you to ask, "How can I live my life in a meaningful way, even when anxiety shows up?"

The goal in ACT isn't to get rid of anxiety.

It's to stop letting anxiety boss you around and tell you how to live your life, so that you have a choice.

28/07/2026

No matter how careful you are, how much experience you have, or how many times you check something, it's hard to go through life without making a poor decision, saying the wrong thing, or making a mistake.

No one can go through life without making mistakes.

We're all human, not perfectly functioning robots.

Instead of thinking you must live life perfectly, it might be better to try to become someone who can respond to mistakes with compassion, honesty and accountability, where needed.

Mistakes don't define our worth.

Most of the time, they show us whether there are things we can learn from, or areas where we can grow.

You don't have to be perfect to live a meaningful life.

You just need to be willing to show up for all the imperfections.

23/07/2026

Do you sometimes find that you want to contribute in a meeting, but the thought of saying the wrong thing holds you back?

Perhaps you want to say something to that friend who flakes on you almost every time.

But a certain niggling fear holds you back.

Usually, it's the fear of being misunderstood, being judged negatively, or losing a relationship that's holding you back.

So you start wondering how to say things in just the right way.

And as a result, you probably don't say anything at all.

The reality is, there is no perfect way to say something, especially when it's uncomfortable.

Instead, it's about coming back to your values.

Why does this matter to me?

Why is it important that I say something?

Then say it. Imperfectly, perhaps.But with kindness, compassion and courage.

18/07/2026

Ever wished you could just switch off your brain?

I know I have.

If you've ever been caught in loops of worrying, overanalysing, ruminating on past events, or imagining worst-case scenarios, you're not alone.

Some of us get caught in these loops more than others.

So what can you do?

You can't control the initial thoughts that pop into your mind.

However, you do have a choice about what you do with those thoughts.

The thoughts may not stop, but you can choose to let them be. To let them come and go like leaves floating down a stream or clouds passing through the sky.

You can learn to notice your thoughts without fighting them or getting caught up in them.

Then you can choose which thoughts are actually worth engaging with.

So if you notice your mind chattering away today, see if you can step back just a little and simply observe those thoughts.

Let them do what they want to do, while you choose what you want to do with your day.

14/07/2026

Do you place unrelenting high standards on yourself?

Having high standards and pursuing them is often valued in today's society.

But what happens when those standards become unrelenting?

When you judge yourself harshly for not meeting them?

When you experience negative consequences from constantly striving, yet still feel unable to stop?

There's a big difference between pursuing excellence or growth in a healthy way and striving for perfection.

The latter can feel a little like Sisyphus pushing a boulder up a hill for eternity.

It's exhausting.

If you're feeling exhausted by unrelenting high standards, I'd love to help.

Just visit my website to get in touch.

11/07/2026

Being diagnosed with a chronic illness means so much more than just managing the symptoms of the illness itself.

Along with the stress and anxiety it can bring, it often brings grief.

Grief for the life you used to have.

Your abilities. Your routines. The activities the illness may have taken from you.

It can also be grief for the life you expected to have.

Your hopes and dreams. The opportunities you imagined. The future you envisioned. Changes to your role, your identity, and perhaps even your relationships.

It's important to make room for that grief.

Take time to acknowledge and mourn those losses.

And remember, there are no stages you have to move through in grief.

It's a process.

It doesn't change the illness, but it can be the starting point for learning how to live a life you want alongside it.

If you need support navigating the challenges of chronic illness, I'd love to help.

Just visit my website to get in touch.

07/07/2026

How often do we live our lives based on what we think we should be doing?

Parents tell you that you need to study law or medicine. Your friends tell you that only certain hobbies or pursuits are worthwhile. Then there are all the messages we're given about life. Finish school, go to university, find a well-paying job, buy an expensive house, find a partner, get married, and have children. Tick, tick, tick.

Then one day, you wake up and wonder, "What the hell am I doing?"

What if, instead of running that rat race, you stepped back and thought about why you're doing what you're doing? What if you asked yourself what actually matters to you, regardless of what other people think? What if you pursued goals based on your own values, rather than society's narratives and expectations?

Living according to your values won't be completely free of discomfort. But it's often far less uncomfortable than living according to someone else's expectations.

If you need support working out what matters to you, I'd love to help. Just head to my website to get in touch.

04/07/2026

When I first started working as a psychologist, I'd ask people about their goals for therapy.

Most of the time, they'd say, "I don't want to feel anxious anymore."

So I would try to help them not feel anxious anymore.

But as I've grown as a therapist, lived in an increasingly uncertain world, and embraced ACT as my therapeutic framework, I've learned that we can't actually get rid of anxiety.

Anxiety, like every other emotion, serves a function.

We're more likely to feel anxious when things are uncertain, unpredictable, or when we perceive something to be a threat.

So completely removing anxiety isn't really possible.

But what if I told you there's a way to live a full and meaningful life with anxiety?

Because that's what I help people do in therapy.

And it's how I try to live my own life too.

Anxiety still shows up.

But it doesn't get in the way.

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