01/09/2026
Today marks 7 months with my beautiful Boy Atlas 🫶
He is such a dream, forever smiling and making others smile too, he belly laughs to his big sissy, has popped his first tooth and is army crawling around the house 🫣
Although I thought I would spend my maternity leave building up my business I have been quite absent on this platform as 7 months of Atlas also marks 7 months of solo parenting.
Even though this was something I knew I was going into alone, I don't think anything can quite prepare you for growing, birthing, feeding and caring for a baby soley on your own.
There is no one to pass the baby to when you are overstimulated and tapped out. No one watches or holds the baby while you shower or cook dinner. No one makes you a coffee on Sunday morning or when you have only had 3 hours sleep. No one else entertains the other kid, there is one person putting two kids to bed generally at the same time when they both need all of you, no one is running to the shops to grab the bread and milk you forget yesterday, no one else is remembering allĺl the things and no one else is paying your bills.
I have had a lot of time to reflect and think in this post-partum- I feel more stable than my first even though I am doing it solo, maybe this is beacuse I only have me and my kids to worry about, maybe its beacuse my house is peaceful and there is no conflict, maybe its beacuse I am content and have accepted this to be my path.
It has also highlighted for me how much women do on their own, partnered or not and how this had just become the norm. How is one person ment to maintain the load of motherhood? The answer is, they are not.
Next year I will be launching my post-partum doula package beacuse no woman needs to be doing this work alone. I became a Doula for this reason, to help be the village to hold and support women going through this transition whatever stage of motherhood you are in. I hope to be able to give back, to truly understand what it means be in the trenches. I want to hold your baby while you nap, shower or shave your legs. Prepare you a warm meal and listen to your worries. I look forward to offering this to all the beautiful women in 2027 ❤️
