01/09/2026
These photos sum up the reason why I kept pushing on Sunday despite the pain and discomfort. My son struggles going to swimming lessons. It’s getting hard, he’s had a few sinking moments during lessons and he’s scared. He gets it done but not without a big fight and plenty of tears. It can be distressing not only for him, but mum and dad too.
Yesterday was no different while at home. He was distressed and scared about swimming from the moment we got home from school. He got a big long hug but then I asked him why again….. “I can’t do it” and “It’s too hard” were the common themes.
He witnessed me pushing through pain and discomfort only day before. I asked him whether he thought the run was hard for dad. He nodded his head. I asked if he wanted to know how and why I kept going. He sucked up his tears and boogers 🤧 and nodded his head.
“I kept going because I knew I could finish the race and hard things are possible”
“I had to tell my brain to be quiet, I can finish this, I can do this”
So, I got him to tell his brain to “be quiet, I can do this”.
After about 5mins of repeating this, he was ready to get dressed for swimming. Every 10mins or so I would ask him: “what do we tell our brain?”
“Be quiet brain, I can do this!”
While I had zero expectations this would work, it managed to get through to him. He smashed this swimming lesson, even sinking a few times as he learns freestyle, but he got it together and finished the lap.
At the end of the lesson he tells me:
“Dad, I didn’t have to tell my brain to be quiet, I just ignored it and kept swimming”. ❤️
Pretty damn proud of this little man, and I made sure he was proud of himself. Will this work every week? Maybe, maybe not. 🤷♂️
Sometimes it’s the little things that work. More often than not it’s setting the example that hard things are possible, and we don’t have to give up straight away. It’s not always as easy or as quick as this was for me, but showing the people who look up to you that you’re not giving up can be more powerful than you recognise.
Keep showing up and pushing yourself, however that looks for you. ☺️💪🏻