22/08/2026
For years now, a huge part of my sessions includes challenging a client to change their narrative around experiencing emotions.
I often hear “my anxiety” or “I’m anxious” which is you taking ownership of this emotion and taking it on as your identity.
Emotions are fluid. They always pass, even the “good” ones.
Part of the human experience is to experience the full spectrum of emotions.
I believe we have always been in a trap of “if you’re not happy all the time you’re failing”
When in reality, we are supposed to experience and feel it all.
So my challenge for you is, to replace “my anxiety” with “I am experiencing anxiety” instead.
Firstly, it’s incredibly empowering, to know and feel you are so much more than that emotion, but also it takes the power it has over you.
Now the critics will say that’s easier said than done.
But in 2023 I was diagnosed with a panic disorder and CPTSD. And whilst those diagnoses helped me compartmentalise what I had experienced, I always knew I was so much more than that.
It starts with the bottom up approach. In traditional psychology it’s the top down approach, the mind (although thankfully that is slowly changing now).
The bottom up works with the body first.
Building a relationship with your body’s cues is a life hack and helps you recognise what you are experiencing in the present moment.
“I notice…” in my body, and “I am experiencing…” allows you to be with yourself, and if what you are experiencing discomfort, you use practical yet magical tools to work through your experience.
They have been days where I have had to breathe my way through an 8 hour panic attack. Uncomfortable? Absolutely. Did it pass? Absolutely!
We are so used to trying to find a quick fix to override these emotional experiences (trust me I get it), but in doing so we give our power away.
One day soon I will writing about my experience with coming off medication that once kept me safe, but now is not the time.
You might like to try this when you feel “good” first!
“I am experiencing joy and in my body I notice tingling in my head” it’s incredibly liberating!
Need some tools? Comment Emotions 💜
Love Chez x