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Welcome my lovelies, I’m Chez 💜

Heart-led Mentoring & Emotional & Somatic Alchemy for those ready to uplevel 🙌
Mentor, Writer, Speaker, Meditation guide, Sound Therapist, Intuitive, Workplace Wellbeing specialist

Lately, I have been reflecting on something I witness time and time again.People are doing all the things they have been...
06/06/2026

Lately, I have been reflecting on something I witness time and time again.

People are doing all the things they have been told will help.

They are reading the books, listening to the podcasts, attending the workshops, journaling consistently, meditating regularly, and genuinely trying to create meaningful change in their lives.

Yet despite all of that effort, many still feel overwhelmed, disconnected, exhausted, or as though they keep finding themselves back in the same place.

I do not believe this is because they are lacking motivation.

More often, I believe they are being asked to work in a place that is not yet ready to receive what they are learning.

The framework I work with is simple, but powerful.

~ Regulation
Before growth, before healing, before clarity, the nervous system must experience safety. A body that feels under threat will always prioritise protection over possibility.

~ Clarity
When the internal noise begins to settle, discernment becomes available. We become better able to recognise what is intuition, what is fear, what is wisdom, and what belongs to old survival strategies that are no longer serving us.

~ Embodiment
Insight alone rarely changes a life. Transformation occurs when understanding moves beyond the mind and becomes something we can feel, practise, trust, and integrate into the way we live.

~ Design
Wellbeing is not something we should reserve for moments of burnout or crisis. It can be intentionally woven into the architecture of our lives, our relationships, our leadership, our businesses, our homes, and our daily decisions.

You cannot think your way into safety. Or create a sustainable life from a perpetually overwhelmed nervous system.

And you cannot expect insight to create lasting change if your body has not yet developed the capacity to hold it.

This is why so much advice, despite being well intentioned, can feel frustrating or incomplete. It is often speaking to a different layer than the one that is truly asking for attention.

So if you feel stuck right now, perhaps you do not need another strategy.

Perhaps you simply need to honour the layer you are being invited to work within.

I’m curious.

Which layer feels most alive for you at the moment? 💜

04/06/2026

I wrote this for you 💜

This is one for headphones in, close your eyes and listen.
My writing is something I treasure with all depths of my soul. It’s like coming home every time I put pen to paper.

I hope it lands with the people that need it the most 💜

04/06/2026

If you’re someone who deeply self-reflects, you need to be very aware of something crucial: most people don’t. They project. This is an incredibly important awareness to cultivate because you might mistakenly self-reflect on their projections, thinking that they, too, are engaging in honest introspection. You can easily get lost in this confusing loop of self-questioning, often based on people gaslighting you or subtly inducing self-doubt, simply because they are unwilling or unable to turn the mirror toward themselves.

So, before you consider what someone else says to you about yourself, first of all, be absolutely sure that it comes from a person who is not only able to take accountability for themselves, but is also genuinely in the state of mind of trying to understand you, rather than judge. Understand that many people are not willing to confront their own flaws or turn the mirror to themselves. They don’t care if they induce self-doubt and mental fog in you, as long as it helps them get away from their own wrong-doing. Not to forget those who know you are someone who self-reflects, and are simply using that very quality against you to manipulate you.

Self-awareness is beautiful, a powerful tool for personal growth. But that being said, external awareness, awareness of others’ patterns and intentions, is just as important, if not more so, in order not to fall into other people’s toxic traps. This commitment to truth, even when uncomfortable, allows you to live with unfiltered emotions and clarity.

29/05/2026

POV: NOT EVERYTHING IS A MIRROR 💜

I think we’ve become a little too quick to turn every uncomfortable interaction into a personal development project.

For years, whenever someone triggered me, disappointed me, hurt me, or behaved in a way that felt deeply out of alignment, my first thought was:

“What is this showing me about myself?”

I’d journal, i’d look for the wound or search for the lesson.

And whilst self awareness is one of the most valuable tools we can cultivate, for a while I’ve been thinking we’ve taken this particular narrative too far.

Because sometimes the discomfort isn’t coming from an unhealed part of you.
Sometimes you’re simply witnessing behaviour that violates your values.

And perhaps the growth isn’t always found in turning inward and dissecting yourself.

Perhaps the growth is learning to trust what you’re seeing,to trust your discernment.

Learning to acknowledge that not everything requires another journal prompt, another healing journey, or another attempt to understand someone who has repeatedly shown you who they are.

The spiritual world speaks often about mirrors. I think it speaks far less about standards.

And I wonder how many people are exhausting themselves trying to heal wounds that were never theirs, when the real invitation is simply to see clearly and choose differently.

Curious…

Have you ever realised that what you thought was a trigger was actually discernment?

👇🏼 I would love to talk about it 💜

28/05/2026

I think one of the loneliest experiences for a woman is being deeply capable whilst quietly and wrongly ashamedly falling apart.

To be the one everybody calls strong whilst your body is carrying grief it no longer knows how to hold gracefully.
Continuing to answer the messages, show up beautifully, hold conversations, build businesses, love people well, all whilst something inside you is whispering, “I cannot keep living like this. I don’t know how much longer I can hold on.”

And the terrifying part is how invisible it can become.
For example: A woman can look polished and still feel like she is drowning beneath her own skin.

I know there are so many women moving through life right now with nervous systems stretched thin from years of surviving. Women whose bodies are no longer tolerating the pace, the pressure, the emotional labour, the self abandonment disguised as resilience. Women who are exhausted in ways sleep does not fix.

And I have noticed life doesn’t prepare you for this part.
The moment your body stops participating in the performance or the moment it refuses to keep pretending it is okay simply because you need it to be.

I think the world praises women endlessly for endurance, but offers very little tenderness in return.

So if you are in a season where your body feels weaker than it once did, where your nervous system feels raw and your heart feels bruised by the sheer effort of holding everything together, please know this is not failure.
It’s conditioning.

It is ok to need rest (note to self).
You are not weak because your body is speaking. And you do not have to earn softness by completely destroying yourself first.

Some women are carrying entire wars inside their bodies whilst still trying to love the world gently. So please do not call her lazy.

If you are a mother, a business woman, a wife, friend etc etc or all of the above and you feel stretched thin. That isn’t ok. Don’t wear it as a badge of honour.
Don’t lose your feminine energy.

Darling if this is you, I see you. Truly I do. And I hope you start seeing yourself with a little more reverence too.

Because the world needs way more kindness than I am witnessi

THIS SUNDAY 🤎💜10am - 12pm$77 per person✨Mat Pilates with Nicola Bolton Pilates ✨Herbal tea and Connection✨Sound Bowl Med...
26/05/2026

THIS SUNDAY 🤎💜
10am - 12pm
$77 per person

✨Mat Pilates with Nicola Bolton Pilates
✨Herbal tea and Connection
✨Sound Bowl Meditation with me

We have a wet weather back up plan if it does rain and we already have an amazing group of individual souls booked.
Spots still available, so join us for two hours just for you 🙏

DM me to book in here or you can reach out to Nicola via Instagram.
Love Chez xx

24/05/2026

Not because men are incapable of love, support, tenderness, or devotion, because they absolutely can be.

But some wounds are written in a language another woman speaks fluently.

A language made up of the expectations placed upon us, the invisible labour we carry, the heartbreaks we rarely say out loud, the self abandonment we are praised for, the guilt we feel when we choose ourselves, and the countless moments we have smiled whilst quietly falling apart.

When my world collapsed, I shared my story with one intention.

Not attention, sympathy, or validation.

Simply the hope that another woman sitting on her bathroom floor questioning her worth, her sanity, her future, or her ability to survive what had happened to her, might feel a little less alone.

What I never expected was what would be returned.

The messages and voice notes.
The women who shared pieces of themselves they had never spoken aloud.

The friendships that deepened.
The women who sat beside me when I had nothing left to give.
The friend who arrived at my front door at 10pm on a Saturday night carrying ice cream, kindness, and the kind of presence that asks for nothing except permission to sit with you in your pain.

Whilst healing is ultimately our own responsibility, I will forever believe female friendship is one of life’s most underrated forms of medicine.

Some of the strongest moments of my life have not happened on stages or during milestones worth celebrating publicly.

They have happened on couches, around kitchen benches, inside voice notes, over cups of tea, in tears and in laughter.

The older I get, the less impressed I am by popularity or lack of integrity, and the more grateful I become for women who genuinely show up.

The women who check in, remember and celebrate your wins without competition.
The women who remind you that even in your darkest season, you never had to carry it all alone.

If you have friendships like that, cherish them please. The sister wound is still very real collectively.

They are rarer than you think and more valuable than words can adequately express.

To my own sisters, I love you 💜 and if you need one, I’m right here whenever you are ready �

TOMORROW 💜💜I love my last minute legends, so if you need two hours for yourself to create sacred rituals for yourself th...
23/05/2026

TOMORROW 💜💜
I love my last minute legends, so if you need two hours for yourself to create sacred rituals for yourself then this is the time and place.

Please join us 💜🙏💫

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