09/28/2026
I have a number of clients who tell me they think something is going on with their pelvic floor, but they don't know if it's weak or tight.
So what does a weak pelvic floor even look like?
As women, we get very little education about our pelvic health, the warning signs, or what the hell we're supposed to do about them.
And our pelvic floors aren't exactly going to send us a strongly worded email saying, โMa'am, we need to talk.โ ๐
Instead, the little warning signs might look like peeing when you cough, sneeze, laugh, run or jump.
They might feel like heaviness, bulging, pressure or a dragging sensation in your va**na, especially after you've been on your feet all day.
You might have a harder time holding in gas. Or urine. Or sometimes, even stool.
S*x may feel different too. Maybe your partner doesn't feel the same inside of you anymore. Maybe you notice less sensation, or your or***ms aren't as strong as they once were.
And sometimes, you don't notice much at all until you jump on the trampoline with your kids and suddenly...
โOh f**k. I just peed my pants a little.โ ๐ณ
But here's what I really want women to understand: A pelvic floor that isn't functioning well does not automatically mean you need to start squeezing the ever-loving s**t out of it.
Weakness can exist alongside tension. A muscle can be tight AND weak. And THAT is a whole other pelvic-floor conversation. ๐
Which is why handing every woman with leakage a sheet of Kegels and sending her on her merry little way makes me want to bang my head against a wall. ๐
Your pelvic floor works with your breath, jaw, diaphragm, abdominal wall, hips, glutes, connective tissue and nervous system.
So I'm not just asking: โHow strong is your squeeze?โ
I'm looking at whether your pelvic floor can soften and lengthen when it needs to, AND create strength and support when you need it.
Because the goal isn't simply a stronger pelvic floor. It's a pelvic floor that can respond to what your body is asking of it.
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