06/18/2026
this may be difficult to accept, but hear me out.
🤍 this is going to be really hard. it isn’t helpful to sugar coat it. pregnancy after loss has lost its innocence. we can’t unknow what we now know — that loss happens, and that we are not immune to it. this will likely be the second hardest thing you’ll ever do. and naming that truth helps so it doesn’t catch you off guard or leave you feeling powerless
🤍 you cannot control the outcome. surrendering is the most difficult part of PAL. no amount of willpower or obsessing can guarantee what happens in this pregnancy. but here’s the good news — there are things we can control. learning what those are and how to lean into them can help us rebuild trust and reclaim some of our power
🤍 your triggers are your responsibility. we can’t control other people or prevent every trigger — they will come up, that’s part of this journey. but we can set healthy boundaries and learn tools that help us move through those moments with more ease and self-compassion
these are exactly the kinds of truths and tools we dig into inside The Haven
if you are pregnant after loss and you don’t want to white knuckle your way through this… you don’t have to 🤍
comment or DM me THEHAVEN and i’ll send you all the details about this life changing program 🤍
how did reading this list make you feel?