10/20/2026
Kids have a lot to say and finding the words isn't always easy.
Friendships, peer pressure, boundaries, and navigating social situations can be complicated, especially when kids are still learning what feels comfortable, uncomfortable, safe, or unsafe. In my therapy space, I will sometimes use two simple rocks. One says “Safe” and the other says “Not Safe.”
These rocks create an opportunity for kids to explore different situations, experiences, and peer dynamics without the pressure of having to explain everything out loud.
We might explore situations like feeling left out, being pressured to do something, having a disagreement with a friend, or deciding when to speak up. Rather than needing to immediately explain their thoughts or feelings, kids can use the rocks to communicate how a situation feels to them.
And from there, we can get curious together.
What makes something feel safe? What makes it feel uncomfortable? What might help you feel more confident in that situation?
It's not about telling kids which friendships or situations are right or wrong. It's about helping them recognize their own feelings, understand their boundaries, and build trust in themselves.
Helping kids find their voice doesnt always start with asking them to tell us whats wrong. Sometimes, it starts with giving them a choice and building on it.