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Blue Onion Counselling Narcissistic Relationship Counsellor | Complex Grief & Addiction | Codependency, Boundaries & Relational Healing 💙🧅✨️

10/06/2026

There’s a difference between considering someone else’s feelings and making yourself responsible for resolving them.

Both people get to have their own needs, limits and feelings in the same relationship.

Not every decision to step away from a conversation means you’re shutting someone out.Sometimes discernment is knowing t...
10/02/2026

Not every decision to step away from a conversation means you’re shutting someone out.

Sometimes discernment is knowing that continuing to participate in the conversation will require you to override your own internal limits.

09/29/2026

Holding the line with an internal limit doesn’t close the door on a conversation. It makes clear what you can participate in while leaving room for the other person to meet you there.

Stonewalling uses silence to prevent forward movement until the other person gives in to a desired outcome.

That distinction matters, especially if you’ve been made to feel guilty for honouring a limit.

After a life-altering loss, finding your footing does not mean returning to who you were before.It may mean slowly learn...
09/26/2026

After a life-altering loss, finding your footing does not mean returning to who you were before.

It may mean slowly learning how to live within a life you did not choose - carrying your grief, your love and your connection with you.

There may be moments of steadiness, meaning or even joy. These moments do not diminish your loss or suggest that you have moved on. They are part of learning how grief and life can exist alongside one another.

You are not leaving the person you love behind. You are finding your own way to keep living while continuing to carry them with you.

09/22/2026

Some losses change more than your circumstances. They alter your sense of safety, your identity and how you understand the world.

Regaining your footing does not mean leaving your loss behind or returning to who you were before. It may mean slowly discovering how to live within a life you did not choose while remaining connected to the person you continue to carry with you.

There is no timeline for finding steadiness after a loss others struggle to imagine surviving.

09/15/2026

As children, we were taught the Golden Rule and it shaped how we choose to treat others, but it does not guarantee reciprocity from others.

You may keep extending patience and understanding, expecting your example will demonstrate how you want to be treated.

There may come a point when the pattern itself holds important information.

What have you been hoping your behaviour would inspire in someone else?

09/08/2026

When maintaining connection requires you to continually adjust, accommodate or carry more than is within your capacity, you may gradually lose touch with your own needs and limits.

This can happen slowly, especially when you have learned that another person’s wellbeing, mood or reactions must come before your own.

Caring for someone does not have to mean disappearing into the relationship. Your connection with yourself matters, too.

09/04/2026

Boundaries become more secure when they are rooted in your internal limits rather than relying on someone else to understand, respect or agree with them.

You may still feel the pull to explain, justify or abandon your boundaries, especially when doing so has helped you navigate anger, withdrawal or other harmful reactions.

Remaining anchored to your internal limits can be a way of remaining connected to yourself when the relationship does not feel emotionally safe.

When your boundaries have been met with anger, dismissal or withdrawal, you may have learned to overexplain or abandon t...
09/03/2026

When your boundaries have been met with anger, dismissal or withdrawal, you may have learned to overexplain or abandon them altogether.

Connecting your boundaries to your internal limits shifts the focus away from whether someone else considers them reasonable. They become less about convincing another person and more about recognizing what you can participate in without losing connection with yourself.

Your internal limits do not become less valid because someone else misunderstands them.

08/31/2026

Maybe August didn't bring a life-changing decision.

But perhaps you saw something more clearly, trusted yourself a little more, or stopped talking yourself out of what you already knew.

Not every meaningful shift is visible from the outside. Sometimes change begins quietly ~ in the moments you listen to yourself, recognize a pattern in real time, or make room for what you need.

This matters too.

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