25/04/2026
Do you struggle to put your oxygen mask on first?
I sure have. It’s something I’ve had to work on my entire life. Some times I’m better at it and other times …. I really suck at it. I’ve been coming through a very long season of not putting my oxygen mask on first or even at all!! I’d say to myself “ Why do you do this…you know better…c’mon… you’ve coached over 1000 individuals on being their best selves over what will soon be three decades Tammy and yet here you are flopping around like a fish and a damn mud puddle”. All joking aside ….that’s when I catch myself and I realize that I’ve NEVER been actually where I am in this moment before, and I’ve never actually lived through these experiences before in this way. The losses, the detours, the unexpected, the real Holy @$&t moments that you think no one would believe. Each layer of those moments and living in them…,has revealed new wisdom, skill, insight. I’m grateful for having self awareness, theory of mind and metacognition. I’ve not arrived, and I’m still growing through it all. Some trails of my life have taken me a lot longer to sort through but I think that’s the way it’s supposed to be. I wouldn’t be who I am now if I didn’t do that so I make peace with it. The most important thing….is acceptance.
For the helpers, the healers, the lovers of light and life. You are going to really struggle in some seasons…. And some seasons will really stretch….. that’s OK. You’re going to learn to put fences on your efforts and your extensions …. There will be times that you’re terrible at it…. That’s OK. There’s a powerful shift that happens when you truly recognize and finally accept that some individuals do not want any different. They will not be uncomfortable and be fearful in order to change. They just are….. and….that’s okay. It really is. It’s not about you and it never was. Put your oxygen mask on again and you move forward ❤️