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I approach counselling as a collaborative process.

We will each bring our unique perspectives, experiences, identities, and beliefs into sessions to help understand the difficulties you're facing.

09/09/2026

Sometimes talking about self-worth in session feels bizarre 😵

Oppressive systems have worked so hard to divorce us from our inherent belonging and worthiness.

I don't believe in building self-worth in the therapy room because I don't believe it's ever been lost.

But what has gotten in the way of us feeling connected to our inherent worthiness and belonging?
What do we need to divest from?
Unlearn?
Relearn?
Externalize?
Accept?
Orient towards with compassion?

(ID: the background image is the edge of a lake with blue and green water, surrounded by trees, with a blue and cloudy sky above. The text reads:
Slide 1: your worthiness is inherent
Slide 2: your belonging is inherent
Slide 3: what anchors you back into belonging & worthiness?)

-fatbias

09/02/2026

more context 👇🏻

Growing up with emotional neglect makes us see ourselves like we're looking into a fun house mirror.

Children understand who we are by having ourselves reflected back to us from the adults around us. When our caregivers are emotionally immature, lacking empathy, lacking understanding of childhood development, traumatized, oppressed, bigoted, or ill, we don't get an accurate version of ourselves reflected back. We learn that the skewed version of us, filtered through their lenses, is who we are.

And hopefully in adulthood we have some safe enough relationships that help us to get a more accurate view of ourselves. Maybe we're not too sensitive. Maybe being fat isn't the worst thing that could happen to us. Maybe we don't need to care take to earn relationship and belonging.

-fatbias

08/28/2026

Thank you to everyone who came to my live Q&A on Wednesday!

We had a great conversation about:
🙃 what anti-fatness/diet-culture steals from our relationship to caring for ourselves
🦭 how to support clients while also gently calling out discriminatory beliefs about fatness
☁️ how anti-fatness shape shifts and morphs (often into healthism)
🌈 and how hard it can be to do this work as a fat practitioner!

I'm excited to do more consultation (and supervision!) work soon! You can always reach out if you want to have a 1-1 with me to dig into where you're stuck in your work and how to best support fat clients. I truly ADORE having these conversations, no matter how heavy (pun intended).

-fatbias

08/24/2026

Last call to join us on Wednesday!

Anti-fat bias is a tricky subject - it continues to be so disregarded in education and the social norms of fatphobia run incredibly deep.

This is your chance to have a full hour Q&A with me to ask all your clarifying questions. It will be the longest Q&A I've ever done with one of my presentations (which have all run late 😂).

I'd love to see you there 🥰

Live Q&A:
🗓️ Weds, August 26
⏰ 12 - 1pm PT

Self-Paced Webinar:
🗓️ 2-month access
💰Professional - $75
💸Student - $50

Participants will receive access to a recording of the workshop, slides, and a references, resources, & reflection handout.

08/20/2026

It's almost here!

I've been so happy to support the Q***r & Trans Farmers' Market since their first year, and it's been incredible to see community come together to keep it going for it's third year now 🥰🌈

Details:
11am until 6pm, August 22nd, 2026 at Banfield Park, 521 Craigflower Road.

A CELEBRATION OF Q***R & TRANS EXCELLENCE, FEATURING:
• A Marketplace - 60+ farm, food, craft, and art vendors!
• A Resource Garden - connect with service providers and non-profits!
• Entertainment - Q***r Open Stage, musicians and drag!
• Activities - free fun for all ages!

Check our their page for more information, including an event guide and the online silent auction that runs until Aug 29th!
trans.farmers.market

08/19/2026

Wh*teness consumes, erases, assimilates, suppresses, destroys.

In place of real culture that's rooted in people and place, wh*teness creates a new culture, one based on it's foundational tenant of supremacy: diet-culture and anti-fatness.

We're not taught ritual, craft, or spiritual practice. Instead, we have shared language around control, denial, and suppression of our bodies and desires. We're taught to make dieting, fat talk, and anti-fatness the baseline for connection.

Absolutely, the needle is moving on this. So many of us stand up to fat talk and are healing our relationships with food, body, and movement. And yet, the desire to connect through discrimination against fatness persists...

PS - (I learned this concept of wh*teness being a void from .heinrichs over the years I've been following her work.)

Join me to keep learning about the roots of anti-fatness and what we can keep doing about it 👇🏻
Live Q&A:
🗓️ Weds, August 26
⏰ 12 - 1pm PT

Self-Paced Webinar:
🗓️ 2-month access
💰Professional - $75
💸Student - $50

Participants will receive access to a recording of the workshop, slides, and a references, resources, & reflection handout.

(ID: The background is churning waves with the text: "In the void of wh*te suprem@cy, diet-culture becomes our only culture.")

08/14/2026

Moralizing food without context looks like normal social expectations. With context, it looks like ongoing colonization.

(This quote is from "My Grandmother's Hands" by - a.k.a. a foundational text for everyone in helping professions.)

Let's keep holding the context together 👇🏻
Live Q&A:
🗓️ Weds, August 26
⏰ 12 - 1pm PT

Self-Paced Webinar:
🗓️ 2-month access
💰Professional - $75
💸Student - $50

Participants will receive access to a recording of the workshop, slides, and a references, resources, & reflection handout.

ID: “Trauma decontextualized in a person looks like personality.
Trauma decontextualized in a family looks like family traits.
Trauma decontextualized in people looks like culture.” -Resmaa Menakem

08/12/2026

I have two nemeses, and they're both dead white men who researched dietetics.

The depth of racism and colonialism underpinning our beliefs and systems around food and health truly knows no bounds. Anti-fatness, healthism, and diet-culture work in service of this oppression.

Just shifting our language so be size-inclusive isn't enough. We need to be radically curious about where our beliefs around food, bodies, and movement come from.

Want to learn in a slow, committed, and relational way? Come join me...

Live Q&A:
🗓️ Weds, August 26
⏰ 12 - 1pm PT

Self-Paced Webinar:
🗓️ 2-month access
💰Professional - $75
💸Student - $50

Participants will receive access to a recording of the workshop, slides, and a references, resources, & reflection handout.

I hope to see you there!

~~~

More about this topic here:

https://www.cbc.ca/radio/unreserved/how-food-in-canada-is-tied-to-land-language-community-and-colonization-1.5989764/the-dark-history-of-canada-s-food-guide-how-experiments-on-indigenous-children-shaped-nutrition-policy-1.5989785

08/05/2026

Uh oh, we're all deeply connected to one another!

Making choices to change behaviour in an attempt to change your body (dieting, intentional weight loss, exercise) doesn't mean that you're exercising your bodily autonomy when you say sh*tty, fatphobic things!

Posting before/afters isn't bodily autonomy - it's co-creating a culture that further stigmatizes and harms the fattest amongst us.

Telling anyone within earshot about your new diet isn't "my body, my choice" - it's harming the self-esteem of anyone who hears you.

Using "fat" as a pejorative to describe your body isn't just talking about yourself.

'Fat talk' hurts everyone who hears it. It perpetuates anti-fatness and increases body shame for all of us.

I go into 'fat talk' in more depth in my next newsletter (coming atcha this weekend, 🔗 in bio to sign up).

And no, I don't meant the INCREDIBLE book by with the same name.

🦭

Want to keep learning with me about the impacts of anti-fatness? Join meeee!

Live Q&A:
🗓️ Weds, August 26
⏰ 12 - 1pm PT

Self-Paced Webinar:
🗓️ 2-month access
💰Professional - $75
💸Student - $50

Participants will receive access to a recording of the workshop, slides, and a references, resources, & reflection handout.

I hope to see you there 🥰

(ID: the background is cliffs and a beach with waves rolling in. The text reads: yes, we all have bodily autonomy. No, that doesn't absolve us from responsibility when we say/do anti-fat sh*t.)

-fatbias

07/29/2026

Being fat ≠ fat community

The pressures to seek proximity to thinness (which is also proximity to whiteness) is so unbelievably high, and it can make fellow fats some of the most harmful people to be around.

Anti-fatness instills a deep fear of being with other fat folks - countless clients and fat community members have told me that they've spent most of their life being the only fat friend. Many of us have fat/larger bodied family members, who often perpetuate some of the most f*cked up interpersonal anti-fatness I've ever heard.

And sometimes we're able to find fat solidarity, but those spaces can be racist, ableist, transphobic, and privilege the experience of small fats.

We desperately need accountable fat community. We need to keep learning the history of anti-fatness and how it impacts us today.

Join me to keep learning 👇🏻
Live Q&A:
🗓️ Weds, August 26
⏰ 12 - 1pm PT

Self-Paced Webinar:
🗓️ 2-month access
💰Professional - $75
💸Student - $50

Participants will receive access to a recording of the workshop, slides, and a references, resources, & reflection handout.

ID: the background is a pacific northwest forest with text overtop.
1: Fatness is one of the few identities without in-group bias - the preference for others with the same identity.
2: Fellow fat people (and especially formerly fat people) can be some of the most unsafe to be around as a fat person.
3: Pressure to perform as the good fatty is unbelievably high. If our body can’t comply with the thin ideal, maybe our behaviours can.
4: This causes incredible harm to fellow fat people - especially when fat talk is so socially accepted and encouraged.

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