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Shelly Sharon - www.shellysharon.com, Zürich (2026)

10/10/2025

Last week, I received a positive response from an institution about something I really wanted and needed.

In truth, I didn’t need to work hard at all to get a YES! I didn’t make much of an effort, it didn’t require much preparation, or a long journey, exhausting journey to sweat may way towards a recognition, acknowledgment and a simple “yes, you can have it!.”

And here’s what happened to me right after:

🍍 I found it difficult to believe it actually happened

🍍 I walked around for a couple of days feeling as if I’d done something wrong— as if I had somehow cheated my way to a YES

🍍I felt shame, and as though I need to hide what I had received

🍍I was, somewhat, frozen inside

THIS is a familiar, common experience for many undermothered women as part of their daily lives.

Nothing dramatic needs to happen to trigger these experiences, which are manifestations of a nervous system and an emotional life wired to guilt and/or shame.

In fact, these feelings, sensations and states of mind are often activated not when something dramatic and obviously wrong occurs, but when something good happens— when you receive something positive, when you get exciting news, when you speak up your mind and ask for your rights and needs to be acknowledged, or when you begin to show up in life and for others in a way that is more fully and authentically YOU.

If significant aspects of feeling safe and care for in your relationship with your mother were missing, that absence was translated and internalised within you as something you did wrong (guilt) or that something about who you are is wrong (shame). In every life is shows up as “it’s your fault.”

It happened to you, it happened within you—you did not cause it.

So, I was super excited when picked up on that point in our conversation on her podcast, The Midlife Edit.

Go ahead and listen now 🎧
Link in bio

03/10/2025

Lingering, unresolved issues in a mother-daughter relations- or any other relationship - are painful.

Especially if you’re wishing to bring parts of the relationship to end, it’s possible to find a closure no matter whether you’re in contact with her or not or how much she’s interested in a heartfelt conversation.

The three keys 🔑 to follow are:
🔑 Ambiguous Grief
🔑 Finding your Meaning
🔑 Supporting your intuitive Inclinations

Read my latest blog ro find out everything you need to know ❤️

22/09/2025

Grief is never simple, and for those of us who grew up as the black sheep, mourning a complicated parent can feel like navigating a labyrinth. When my father passed last week, I was pulled into both the chaos of family dynamics and the paradox of love and rage, tenderness and disgust.

In my latest Substack essay, I share what it means to grieve on your own terms — without collapsing back into old roles, and without abandoning yourself.

Read the full piece, *The Black Sheep’s Guide to Grieving a Parent*, on my Substack. Link in bio.

03/05/2025

Hi. If we haven’t met my name is Shelly and I’m a certified Trauma trained Hakomi therapist and Buddhist psychology coach who specialises in working with women who wants to unpack the way a challenging relationships with their mum inhibits them today in their sense of self, relationships and career so they can find a bigger and freer self expression.

The coming Saturday I’m holding a workshop: What is the Mother Wound.

The workshop weaves together cutting edge knowledge based about mother-daughter attachment wounds and trauma as well as somatic practices to provide first hand experience how they’re helpful in reaching deep release of difficult feelings and limiting believes.

Many women keep the difficulties of the experiences with their mum a secret both because it’s very unacceptable to talk about these things (often met with judgment and shaming) and because of an automatic survival mechanism to normalise such experiences in order to control the emotional overwhelm and be able to function in life.

If you’re:
🌺Curious about learning more about the Mother Wound for yourself or as a professional working with women
🌺Interested in first hand experience of somatic practices and how the work with healing the mother wound
🌺Wanting to discover how the mother wound holds too back today in your adult life

… then this workshop is for you

Or maybe it’s for someone you know — share it with two women in your life, you never know who walks with this secret in their pocket.

✨Women only workshop—10 spaces only
✨Saturday May 10th, 10-13 Biel
✨Light snacks included
✨100chf - one spot in a reduced rate for a woman who’s experiencing financial hardship
✨Light and spacious atmosphere

To save your spot:

https://c2gether.ch/event/what-is-the-mother-wound-2/

19/04/2025

Each time I think
I ran out of tears
few more start pouring.
Their flow erase my voice,
take my breath away,
and for a moment, within that stillness
I’m both hurting and relieved.

Each time I think
I ran out of tears
a new wave shepherds inside me
the lost thoughts that wonder
if you can bury sorrow
with the dead.

Each time I think
I might have no more tears
I panic I haven’t grieved enough,
or pruned the branches of tears
before they had a chance to water
the promised new life.

And for a moment
when the tears run out
and the Earth of sorrow opens its mounts,
threatening to swallow me,
I yearn for them to come back.
Maybe one will carry him to me,
for one more hug
one more caress
to cover his body with kisses
to drink his loving gaze
hoping it could quench the tears’ thirst.

Fistuk Norris-Sharon
Aug 2014 - 15 April 2025 💔

14/02/2025

What is love?

To wake up to a new reality
you didn’t know exited before.

To look fear in the eye.

To raid a whole bag of crisps
while gazing at an empty reality show,
then wipe guilt with fatty, salty fingers
and giggle to yourself in full joy.

To hug the shards of wounded heart,
release them from the guard
that gives them space
so long as they grow,
or tell you something reasonable for repeated questions: “why?!”

To devour a peach—
Juices flow on open lips,
eyes closed,
and nothing within you
holds back.

What is love? —It’s to answer in a thousand and one ways,
and still go around the sun
searching for more,
and discover
how each inhale
gives another chance
for another one.
Shelly Sharon. Helping women heal the mother wound and love themselves whole again.
✨And if you read up to here, I’d love it if you add in the comments a poem or a piece of writing you love✨

In the pic: dancing with the sunset at the top of the hill above my house

30/03/2023

ARE YOUR BOUNDARIES HELPING YOU HEAL YOUR MOTHER WOUND??

Is this familiar?:
You set boundaries with your mum—you finally know what boundaries are, what yours are and work really hard to set them no matter how it makes you feel

And the response is:
“Oh, I’m sorry I’ll never do that again” (and she does right away)
She doesn’t take any notice of what you just said
Or
She’s “just doing that for your own good”

This is demoralising, diminishing, frustrating, at best.

You think “I’ll teach her how to respect me/pay attention to me/stop harassing me” with these boundaries. You’re out to teach her something she hasn’t learned for 40/50/60 years?! And it’s not your job to teach her anyways.

But we hear that boundaries are SO important, right?!

After you’ve tried reinforcing your boundaries over and over again you’re left feeling you have with two choice:
Stuff it up (and you think it’s your job to just accept)
Or
Minimise / eliminate contact (and some daughters don’t want that options)

Button line—you’re left with the familiar, exhausting distress and your boundaries didn’t do the work to resolve it.

Why did you think boundaries will do for you in the first place?

I can imagine you wanted to ease down one form or another of pain that’s always triggers in the relationship with your mother (or one that you’ve transported to your relationship with you partner or friends…)

You probably felt she’s asking to much of you, not listening to you, giving unsolicited advice, criticising you or perhaps treating you like her bestie.

And boundaries are supposed to fix this, right?!

Boundaries are important! In the process of clarifying your boundaries you clarify what’s important to you and what kind of relationships you’re open to (or not).

But boundaries are only scratching the container. They’re not able to manage what happens inside the container

If not boundaries, then what?!

Before you start with boundaries, there are habits and patterns of the dynamic with your mum that have settled in deep in your emotional body and dictate how you feel which need to be tended for.

Exposing those habits and what beliefs feed them is what will help dissolve the distress that boundaries are not able to.

It’s like eating a candy when you’re in fact very hungry and haven’t had breakfast and lunch. The candy is not going to be satisfying and will just throw you on a craving spin.

Here’s an example
You set a boundary (“stop commenting on my appearance”) but the feeling that it’s not safe to ask for what you need is triggered.

As you work on unhooking this belief from your emotional body, replacing it with a belief that “it’s safe to ask for what I need” whatever happens in response doesn’t get you triggered, you’re not in distress and your options for managing a relationship are greater.

If you rely on boundaries to be your safe place you’re relying on others to cooperate with your views about yourself.

If you rely on a healthy belief system you rely on your own emotional resilience from a whole set of relationship patterns emerges.
If this is a familiar struggle I’d love to help. PM and I’ll share with you more about working 1:1 with me.

I’ve helped many women like you “reorganise” the ways they engage with their mum (or other relationships that were somehow a replica of how they engaged with their mum) so they could feel free to be themselves and get the level of reciprocity they yearn for.
PM ❤️

Shelly’s helping women who know they’ve been negative lately impacted by their relationship with their mother find deeper levels of healing so they could feel seen, loved and appreciated in their personal or professional life.
✨

28/07/2022

STORIES THAT ARE IN THE WAY

I set in the circle with another ten women. All of us applicants for a bachelor degree in special education and were invited to take this test.

I was supposed to tell the group who I am in a third person form, as if I’m telling about someone else.

I was sure this part of the test failed me and I won’t be accepted.

I just couldn’t do it!

Like a stone dropped to a lake I kept falling back to talk about the *I*.

For years it baffled me—why couldn’t I just speak about myself in a third person voice?!

If you deal with the a mother wound—especially if your mother is enmeshed, narcissistic, ill, snappy, absent or mute, your story is not just your own.

There’s a process to go through to claim your own story. To have your own take on your life and feel **complete** with it.

Back then, I didn’t know that.

I did everything in my power to become a full person, regardless of my past.

What I overlooked was that my mother-story, in spite of the infant trauma, the childhood neglect and the abandonment, was actually part of my wholeness.

**Getting caught in what was done to you is a story that’s in the way—but looking into what you have learned and become through that story is a story that heals**

I was running away from my mother-story not knowing I was running from a crucial part that can make me whole.

Healing the mother wound involves a lot of unwrapping the pain of this relationship to reveal the diamonds made under that pressure.

It’s a real process. A deep process. More than a common metaphor it’s a coming together.

This is what I’ll be offering in my coaching group WOMEN OF WHOLENESS.

Registration is undergoing and there are 6 spots left 🧚‍♀️

I want to invite you to a FREE WORKSHOP and have an experience leading you to reveal some of this whole self.

To give you a path to embody parts of yourself that you may have been turning away from or haven’t fully integrated yet.

PM to join ❤️

It’s perfect for women who’ve been around the block with different healing modalities and want to go deeper into their sense of wholeness and cleanse some more of what lies in the subtle dimensions of their being.

It’s also perfect for women who are on a journey of healing the mother wound and are exploring what could be helpful for them.

HEALING THE MOTHER WOUND & MEETING YOUR WHOLE SELF
**Free Workshop**
Aug 3rd 18:30-19:10 (17:30BST / 12:30EST / 19:30 Isreal)
PM TO JOIN ❤️
There’s no upsell. You know already about my coaching group and I’ll mention some details for those who are interested. Join whether you’re considering the coaching group or to simply have an experience of genuine connection with self and others.
Shelly’s helping women on a journey of healing the mother wound who are dealing with the ways it influenced their sense of self, relationship or the success of their career and want to reach deeper levels of wholeness

21/07/2022

HEALING THE MOTHER WOUND COACHING GROUP

There’s a voice that’s active in most of us which tells us stories about ‘not enough’.

Though it could be due tothe messages of scarcity we hear from every media channel for years, it could be because of the pressure of demands on a (super) woman in modern days or many other reasons...

What most women don’t consider is that the voice of ‘not enough’ has its roots in the mother wound.

And without going down to the root everything we do is like fighting weeds instead of properly cultivating a fertile, rich earth.

The real and deeper problem with ‘not enough’ voice is that it makes us feel shaky about our presence and mostly unsafe.

Feeling deeply safe to show up in our wholeness is the most precious and the most empowering trait I know of.

Because it means that not only you are genuinely happy with who you or what you have—you also have a Knowing that you’re going to be embraced,
No matter your state.

Feeling deeply safe means that you know how to reach out for help even when you’re triggered or unclear about what the hell to say. And that’s a medicine for loneliness.

Feeling deeply safe means that you’re not worried about your role in each of your relationships because you have a deep sense of BElonging that doesn’t need you to justify yourself.

All this happens on a very subtle dimension.

Conscious women are already aware of most of their “issues” and have lots of tools to handle their past or current demands.

And yet, since I mostly work with women who’ve been around the block with healing modalities for years, i see over and again how active is the expectation to “be over it” or to “be able to deal with it by myself”.

It’s good to remember the tribe of women, the counsel of wisdom, that once used to be our cushion, our space of safety, when we needed to let go of the knowing, of the roles, of any expectation and just be reminded that presence is enough, that belonging is not about doing but about being able to bring our whole self—whatever that means moment to moment.

This is what I’m offering in the coaching group which starts on September 5th.

A space for women who are on a journey of healing the mother wound, who live a conscious life and want to deepened their healing and capacity to show up fully as themselves.

After years of healing and intensive immersion in meditation practice I learned that changing ourselves or healing ourselves is not the end of the story.

We need each other. We need to be reaffirmed in wider circles of other people.

Whether family, friends, community, work spaces—bringing our whole self is more than a new age slogan or a sticker to put on the mirror in your bathroom. It’s a deep sense of feeling safe in your presence to be embodied.

If there’s something in this calling that wakes your heart or body up, here are some details:

✨Starting September 5th

✨Two coaching meetings a month

✨Two special workshops with guest teachers within six months

✨Commitment for six months (but this is an ongoing group and you’ll be able to stay as long as you wish)

✨Only 8 women to keep it intimate

✨✨Join by August 5th you’ll join a bonus workshop on working through triggers.

✨Special launch rates

Is love to hear from you if you have any curiosity about this. Let’s set up a chat and take things very gently with a lot of space to explore. PM ❤️
Shelly’s helping women on a journey of healing the mother wound who are struggling with the ways it impacted their sense of self, relationship or the success of their calling and want to reach deeper levels of wholeness

16/07/2022

I have an exciting announcement...

I’m offering a coaching group 🤩

Let me tell you about it because it’s not just another coaching group. Meet:

WOMEN OF WHOLENESS
ongoing healing the mother wound coaching group
✨

Let me ask you:
How safe do to feel being fully yourself in groups and public circles?

How connected can you stay within your own truth when you meet others?

After years of personal growth and development I healed a lot of wounds, grew into claiming my space and found a lot of joy in being myself, in spite of my past, in spite of other life challenges

But...

I was shocked to discover that even after years of many healing modalities I could still somehow get caught in certain mindf**ks when I was in the company of groups:
“Will I feel belong”

“Am I taking too much space in the group”

“Can I really share what I think without being criticised”

“Am I understood”

I’ve come to realise that we need relational practices AND self practices.

We yearn to have deep and empowering connection both with ourselves and with others

The most potent work of healing the mother wound happens when we bring these two dimensions together

We get wounded in relationships and we heal in relationships.

And the thing is that we **yearn to feel safe** with others but the often we just don’t know how to create it or even how to find it.

WOMEN OF WHOLENESS focuses on helping women find what the need to be able to show up fully, feeling safe and connected

Whether this calls you for feeling deeply connected and not losing your ground with family and friends or in your public roles, this coaching group will have the container you need to feel held and seen.

I’m excited to welcome you in:
Starting Sep 5th
Early bird by August 5th
8 participants (7 spots left)
Meeting twice a month online
Two special workshops with guest teachers

✨PM for more details

And please feel free to share and spread the word 🙏

Much love ❤️

Shelly’s helping women on a journey of healing the mother wound who are struggling with the ways it impacted their sense of self, relationship or the success of their calling and want to reach deeper levels of wholeness

12/07/2022

What are you not allowing yourself to feel?

On the webinar today n the hunger to be loved I have a few weeks ago a young lady shared that the teachings and practice brought her to think about forgiving the younger version of herself for seeking love in harmful places.

She wasn’t loved by her mother and she felt hungry. That hunger drove her to seek love in places that were often too lean in love.

She should accept her younger self, she said, because following the teachings of the webinar she could see how the younger version of herself didn’t know about the wounded hunger for love and how it reined her choices.

Yet, what I heard with my inner ears , and took a risk to check with her, was that forgiveness and acceptance were ideas.

I asked her to check what comes up if she puts forgiveness and acceptance aside for a moment.

Tears started to flow.

They were messengers of unprocessed feelings.

**I want you to find forgiveness**

**I want you to find acceptance**

**but not as ideas n the expense of metabolising feelings**

I spent two decades in deep exploration of our human nature through meditation, with periods of intense practice, and what I learned is that forgiveness and acceptance are divine qualities we **arrive at**.

We can’t do forgiveness—forgiveness finds shelter in our heart

We can’t do acceptance—acceptance lands softly in our body.

We can’t DO love, letting go, creativity or any other divine qualities (the immeasurable as they’re called in Buddhism).

Here’s what you can do in order to arrive at these precious experiences:

Feel the feelings you’re not allowing yourself to feel

Explore the limiting beliefs that lock you in ideas about what you should do

Care—tenderly and intently—for the young one in you, to her feelings, to her honest state of being.

And reach out for help. You’re not supposed to go through this by yourself, even if you’re a salted therpaist. A mature spiritual being knows how to seek help because help is love.

Whatever you allow yourself to feel metabolises the young one that lives in your emotional body and helps you heal the mother wound.

PM if you need help in digesting feelings and learning how to embody acceptance on a deep and honest level ❤️
Shelly’s helping women on a journey of healing the mother wound who are struggling with the ways it impacted their sense of self, relationship or the success of their calling and want to reach deeper levels of wholeness

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