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🌸Holistic Trauma-Informed Counsellor
🌿I help you break free from trauma + shame and reconnect with your inner wisdom
🪬Somatics, nervous system, inner child work

Based in Aberdeen | worldwide sessions 🌎| online only 💻

03/02/2026

Boundaries are especially hard for people struggling with cptsd or complex trauma.

Saying no once meant conflict, withdrawal, rejection or losing closeness. So the body learnt to stay agreeable instead.

Saying yes = staying safe. Simple.

That’s why setting boundaries now can feel heavy and wrong, even when you know your requests are reasonable. Your nervous system reads them as danger, rather than self-care.

But that’s why learning how to set healthy boundaries is crucial in your healing journey. Because you are finally teaching your body that choosing yourself won’t lead to losing connection💫

If you are struggling with this, don’t worry. The simple fact you are trying means you are doing great already🦋🫶🏼

-Caroline xx

02/02/2026

Most of us learnt how to cope, but not many learnt how to feel.

We all learnt how to distract, stay busy. How to understand emotions instead of letting ourselves experience them and flow through them.

So when big feelings show up, the body reads them as unsafe. Too much. Something to shut down or get rid of.

That’s often why insight alone doesn’t really bring relief. You can know why you feel the way you do and still feel overwhelmed.

But do you know how empowering it feels to allow an emotion to exist fully without judging it, analysing it, or pushing it away?

I didn’t, to be honest. And when I first tried it, everything started genuinely shifting.

I offered myself curiosity and compassion, instead of judgement. I started telling myself that the way I am feeling is valid and is ok. And that I don’t need to change anything.

Strangely enough, that’s when my body and emotions started letting go. As soon as I realised I was allowed to be me, my sadness and anger soften.

Emotions finally started to feel manageable again. I finally felt empowered instead of overwhelmed.

And that’s why this is one of the very first “tools” I teach to the people I work with.

At first, it will feel uncomfortable and kind of.. scary.

Especially if, like me, you grew up needing to stay regulated for others, or learnt that big feelings weren’t welcome.

But eventually, the body learns that feelings rise… and fall.
And that you can feel stuff deeply and still be okay.

This is how emotional capacity grows.
Not by avoiding or “mastering” emotions,
but by meeting them with presence, curiosity, and compassion.

And if this feels hard, that doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong.

It means you’re learning something you were never taught🦋💫

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31/01/2026

You think it’s supposed to feel light, calm, soothing.

But actually, it doesn’t.

Because suddenly, you notice everything.

The people who drain you.
The habits that hurt you.
The ways you’ve been shrinking just to survive.

You start feeling things you’ve ignored for years.
Anger. Sadness. Loneliness.
All of it comes back at once. And sometimes (or most of the times) it’s exhausting.

You start saying no more.
You start leaving things behind. People, habits.

And some people won’t get it. Some people will judge.
And that’s okay. That’s actually… good.

You start noticing yourself.

Like reeaally noticing.

Noticing the parts you’ve been hiding and those you’ve been ignoring.

The parts that need love.
Even the messy, loud, inconvenient parts.

The truth is that healing is messy.
It’s uncomfortable.
It’s lonely at times.

But it’s real and raw.
And that’s the point.

Healing won’t make you feel better all the time.

But it will allow you to show up for yourself anyway.
Feeling the feelings. Naming the patterns. Breaking the cycles.

And slowly and painfully… but beautifully… you’ll realise that you’re allowed to exist fully.

And to do that is incredibly terrifying, yes.

But also incredibly healing💫

If you are on this path… you’ve got this🦋

-Caroline xx

27/01/2026

Do you ever feel like you just can’t say no to people
without immediately feeling guilty afterwards?

If this is you, don’t worry. I get it.

I’ve struggled with this for the longest time
(and to be honest, I still do at times)

But once I started to understand that my guilt around saying no was actually a deep-rooted fear of rejection,
that’s when things started to soften.

So instead of asking myself,
“what’s wrong with me?”
I started asking,
“what can I offer myself so that I can feel safe?”

Spoiler alert: most of the time, the answer was self-compassion.

If you struggle to say “no,”
there’s nothing wrong with you.

You just need to learn how to offer yourself safety
even when it feels uncomfortable 🦋

Remember, your boundaries don’t push people away,
they bring you back to yourself💫

26/01/2026

True healing is embodied, not logical or rational.

Your body is craving for real sensed safety.

That’s why sometimes understanding things is not enough. And that’s ok🫶🏼

Healing takes time, always go at a pace that feels comfortable for you🦋✨

-Caroline xx

25/01/2026

You were the easy daughter.
Not because it felt good.
But because it felt safer.

Safer to stay quiet.
Safer to not need.
Safer to disappear a little.

You were praised for being mature.
For coping.
For not making things harder.

So you swallowed your feelings.
You made yourself small.
You learnt how to be easy to love.
And you learnt how easy it is to be loved when you shrink yourself.

But being easy cost you yourself.
And that’s a high price to pay.

But here’s what no one told you:
You don’t have to perform to be worthy.
You don’t have to disappear to belong.

You’re allowed to take up space now.

You can be yourself, fully, and still be loved.🦋✨

24/01/2026

For a lot of people, self awareness can become a very sophisticated avoidance strategy.

You learn to analyse your thoughts, your emotions, your patterns.

You give them names, explanations, and suddenly everything makes sense.

But somehow you still feel stuck, not knowing how to move on.

And if this is you, that’s ok.

That self-awareness feels safer than feeling your emotions, and that’s understandable.

It gives you a sense of control and that’s when it starts to become addictive.

But true healing is not just understanding why you are feeling a certain way. It’s also allowing yourself to feel those emotions fully.

Letting them move through you.

And only then, they start to move away from you.

And then you finally start to feel lighter 🤍✨

22/01/2026

✨ Did you know? 👇🏼

I’ve been receiving lots of enquiries from people looking for face-to-face therapy…

And I’m so excited to finally share that I’m now offering in-person counselling and therapy sessions in Aberdeen city centre ✨

If meeting in person feels important for you, for safety, connection, or simply being in a shared space… this option is now available 💛

💻 Online sessions are still available if that works better for you too 🥰

A little about how I work:
My approach is gentle, trauma-informed and holistic, designed to help you build real, sustainable change.

Offering more than talk-therapy alone, I integrate somatic and body based practices to help you reconnect with your true self in a safe and empowering way.

✨ Free initial consultation included — a chance to see if we’re a good fit and ask any questions, with no obligation.

If this resonates, feel free to reach out 💬
You don’t have to have it all figured out before starting.

- Caroline xx

21/01/2026

Trauma survivors often struggle with the idea of taking up space.

They don’t want to be a burden to others, worrying that they’ll be too much or not enough. Or both at the same time.

But what if you allowed yourself to claim that space? What would that mean for you?

Take this as a reminder that you belong here and it is your right to take up space.

You are never too much.

Address

Aberdeen

Website

http://whollyoupsychotherapy.com/

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