Alicja Boersma-konsultant rodzinny

14/12/2025

My first story for children and their carers. Perfect for those who love magical stories and love creating. I designed it the way, so your child (and you) can illustrate it to your desire. Enjoy :-)

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17/11/2025

https://breakoutclips.com/?via=alicja

No video editing skills needed. Perfect for Instagram, LinkedIn, Facebook & TikTok.

22/05/2025

Why I had never heard this beautiful song?
W h a t a v o c a l!

Ochman performed River, representing Poland at the Eurovision Song Contest 2022 in Turin, Italy. Find out more: https://eurovision.tv/participant/ochman-22-T...

16/05/2025

'My children never listen!'

I wasn't aware that one of the reasons was that I didn't have any boundaries set. I didn't even know what actually boundaries were. We were comunicating shouting to each other all day every day. It was a norm.

Enough! Basta!

28/02/2025

5 Powerful Questions to Inspire Teens About Their Future 🌟
Kids are tired of being asked, "Who do you want to be when you grow up?" 🤔 It's a question we've asked for centuries. But what can you ask to truly connect with your kids and ignite excitement about their future?
Here are 5 powerful questions designed to spark fresh ideas in your teen, fostering a sense of excitement and motivation! 🎉
The secret to impactful questions? Make them empowering and open-ended. These questions fuel self-discovery and highlight what’s possible.

Powerful Question #1: What would you do after graduation if money weren’t an issue and nothing bad could happen? 💭
Teens often feel trapped in specific career paths because they think it’s the only way to “make good money.” 💸 We've heard many high schoolers aim for banking or finance—only to discover it's all about the money. How can we guide them to explore careers aligned with their passions and interests? By removing money from the equation, you'll uncover what your teen truly wants to do with their life.

Powerful Question #2: What makes you jump out of bed early on a Saturday? 🌅
Here's a question that's less annoying and less ‘parenty,’ perfect for discovering a child's interests and motivations. A teen’s response will unveil their passions and what energizes them. ⚡️ This insight can lead to career ideas that align with their enthusiasm. For instance, if they’re up at 6 am for a soccer game, they might thrive in the sports industry. ⚽️ They could work in marketing write for a sports publication, or develop a sports betting app. Why not? If concerts excite them, maybe the music industry is their calling. 🎶

Powerful Question #3: What would you drop from your life without any consequences? 🚫
Knowing what you don’t like is just as valuable as knowing what you do like. High schoolers often juggle tedious classes or unenjoyable activities to boost college applications. It’s crucial to give your child a safe space to express what drains them, as this insight is invaluable for career planning. For instance, if science bores them, a pre-med track may not be ideal, even if both parents are doctors. 🩺

Powerful Question #4: Who in your life has the coolest job? 😎
This fun, actionable question can open doors. If your child admires someone’s job, encourage them to reach out on LinkedIn for a short chat to learn more. Why not? This exercise offers two benefits: gaining a clearer picture of the job and starting to build a professional network. 🤝

Powerful Question #5: What would you attempt this year if you knew you couldn’t fail or be rejected? 🚀
Teens today face immense pressure and feelings of inadequacy, often amplified by social media. 📱 But rejection is part of life, even for the most successful. As parents, we should promote resilience by embracing failure and rejection. When you ask this question, encourage your teen to pursue their dreams, whether it’s trying out for class leader or asking someone they desire to prom. And remind them to take pride in the attempt, regardless of the outcome. 🎈

Remember to share these insights with others! Thank you 😊
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17/02/2025

I dare you to start whispering to your loved ones and watch the magic unfold. 🎤✨

Have you ever noticed how we whisper sweet nothings to babies and loved ones? It's like a secret language of love. But when things get chaotic, we suddenly find ourselves shouting. Let's flip the script!

🎉 Make It Fun and Playful
Turn everyday chats into secret adventures! Create a special game where you exchange stories or messages through whispers, turning it into a beloved ritual. 🎈👪

Whispering isn’t just about speaking softly; it’s about transforming the way you connect with your child. By weaving whispers into your daily life, you’re not just enhancing communication but fostering a deeper, more meaningful bond. 🌟
👉 Ready to unlock the magic of whispering?

Tag a friend who should try this enchanting method with their child! 💌
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15/02/2025

Practicing communication with my children.

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15/02/2025

The whirlwind of everyday life, interwoven with a million important tasks to handle – this is how a week looks for most parents. 🌪️😵‍💫
Every day is planned down to the minute:
morning wake-up, quick breakfast, school/kindergarten drop-off, rush to work where a pile of urgent tasks awaits, picking up the kids after work, shopping, cooking, cleaning... ... Meanwhile, the boss calls asking you to look at an urgent email or a friend who is going through a tough time needs to talk...
On top of all this, your child keeps asking for your attention, and you keep repeating: 🙅 "Not now," 🙅 "Don't bother me, can't you see I'm talking?" 🙅 "I'm busy, in a moment!"

What does the child feel in these moments?

Sadness, rejection, disappointment, anger.
No love!
💔 Is it because they just wanted to show you their new drawing with the whole family smiling?
💔 Because they worked hard on building a tower with blocks and really want to show you how tall they manage to built it?
💔 Because they missed you all day and now want to cuddle and tell you about their day at preschool/school?
💔 Because they need your help with a geography assignment?
💔💔💔 Because... they just want to be NOTICED - HERE and NOW.

Does this mean we should drop everything whenever our child asks for something?
Of course not!
☑️ But instead of dismissively saying, "I don't have time," we can tell our children that we see them, that they are important to us, and that we will make time to be together.

How can we do this?
👉 Check out the new reel coming this evening to see what you can say to your child instead of "Not now." 👈 💖💖
Remember, words have power! – The power to change reality and the power to build in children the belief that they are IMPORTANT to us.
Always! 💖💖

14/02/2025

Dear Mom and Dad, It's me, your immature teenager. I know you think I am annoying.
I need your support as I navigate through my teenage years. My brain is still developing, you know. Particularly the prefrontal cortex, which is crucial for rational thinking. I am still lackin it.
This development won't be complete until I'm about 25, and that feels like a long way off.

I am lost. I am sorry. It seems like I don't develop as fast as you want me to.
While I might excel academically, like scoring high on my math exams, that doesn't shield me from the typical developmental stages. Intelligence and judgment are distinct, and the same traits that make my brain creative and adaptable also make me more impulsive at times. I know, but I can't control it! I know that deep down you get it. Don't you Mum/Dad?
When I make a mistake or miss an opportunity, your reaction can often feel overwhelming.
You, as adults, respond with the rational part of your brain, but I tend to react more emotionally. When you ask, "What were you thinking?" understand that my thought process is different from yours. You can attribute this to my stage in life or to nature, but it’s simply the reality right now. I can’t make it change. It's above me abilities.
I know you love me, but currently, my friends are my priority. They get me. Please understand this phase and remember, I am observing you closely. And I feel you.
Here's how you can help me

Your actions and words matter, even if it seems like I'm not listening. Show me the path, and I will eventually follow, despite any detours. I will.

Allow me to learn from my mistakes. Giving me some freedom helps build my confidence and resilience. Don't get mad with me.

Tell me about your teenage years and what you learned. It gives me space to make my own discoveries. So I don't feel like an alien.

Help me see the bigger picture. Remind me that current challenges will pass, even if I seem dismissive.

Emphasize the dangers of drugs and driving. Assure me that I can always reach out for help without judgment. Please.

Your kindness teaches me to be kind. Avoid mocking or being harsh, and understand that I might think I know everything right now. Just be there for me.

Show interest in what I enjoy. Your validation means a lot and strengthens our connection.

You can still hug me. Or at least try. Sometimes it's enough to look in my eyes and give me that warm smile. I need it.

One day, this phase will end I can promise and you'll see a confident, strong, and kind adult emerge. Until then, please be patient and supportive. Like you would want someone to be to you.

Love,
Your Teenager