Louise Allen - Therapy

Louise Allen - Therapy Wild Therapy, collaborative counselling, group facilitation, using different approaches to suit your needs.

Which realms or threads of grief here resonate or stand out to you?I had a really helpful request from a friend asking f...
03/09/2026

Which realms or threads of grief here resonate or stand out to you?

I had a really helpful request from a friend asking for a post specific to one area of grief. There is so much to say on each area - which would you like to explore further?

I think that many of us often wonder if our grief is "too much" or "not enough" or "not the right kind of grief" or "not griefy enough" to warrant sharing..... It can hold us back from finding support and mean we are all dealing with our own grief quietly behind closed doors, giving the appearance of being fine or just getting on with it. We inadvertently add to the sense of "other people are managing OK, why am I finding this so hard?"

Perhaps if we/I can share a bit more about the different things we might grieve, all people will see there is a place for them in the grief conversation, and that they are welcome to join for support when they are ready.

What aspects of grief around illness, diagnosis and disability have I missed?---Grief through illness and diagnosis:Grie...
03/09/2026

What aspects of grief around illness, diagnosis and disability have I missed?

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Grief through illness and diagnosis:

Grief is the experience of loss. It is a process that evolves, an ongoing experience of something no longer here.

It is present far more often than you might think.

It may be temporary for your own disrupted health, or someone you love.
Loss and limitations of being able to enjoy being in the world freely, easily, comfortably, without fear

Grief can follow when we don't "get better" or return to the health and ability we had hoped. When life isn't just altered temporarily but indefinitely, unpredictably or progressively (yes, I know I spelled "unpredictably wrong in the slide 🙈).

We can also grieve for the time we lived with a condition or illness without/before diagnosis or good support. For how long we had to live unseen and unsupported.

Or grief for the time you didn't realise what your children struggled with or needed.

Anticipatory grief:

When grief comes before the loss.

Sorrow, fear, disappointment for the challenges ahead. The lack of access. For hostile environments. For lack of resources, medication, support, adaptations. For pain, discomfort, isolation.

I think anticipatory grief can be extremely helpful. It can be a chance to prepare for what lays ahead. So we can grow our capacity emotionally, psychologically and practically, and resource ourselves.

Love and support:

Love and compassion and presence is a balm for an aching heart. But it's not always readily available in our busy, individualised lives.

Grief can open the doorway for care, connection and tenderness. But in our fractured and extractionist society, we need to create and seek out the people and spaces where we can be met there.

www.tinyurl.com/grieftendingcircle

ABOUT GRIEF Grief is the experience of loss, it is a process that evolves, an ongoing experience of something no longer ...
26/08/2026

ABOUT GRIEF
Grief is the experience of loss, it is a process that evolves, an ongoing experience of something no longer here. We know grief follows a bereavement and it also follows other losses; a relationship ending, a redundancy, deteriorating health or illness, a hoped-for future, or a sense of who you once were. We also grieve what we might have expected and things we never chose, the parts of ourselves we have had to leave behind, and the sadness we carry for the wider world.

Whatever you’re grieving, it carries wisdom and something longing for expression. When grief has nowhere to go, it can create a barrier to connection, to joy, to vitality both within ourselves and with others.

Qualities of grief can include sorrow, despair, anger, rage, fear, numbness, dissociation, relief and also love and joy. All feelings are welcome - there is no right or wrong way to grieve.

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GRIEF SUPPORT CIRCLE
www.tinyurl.com/grieftendingcircle

We (Louise and Lucy) invite you to join us to gather as a small group to connect with, and find ways to express, your grief with the support of the land and the group.

This might be the grief following (but not exclusive to):

• Bereavement
• Unmet needs
• Loss of identity, relationship, work, or health
• Childlessness or pregnancy loss
• Life-changing illness or disability, or late diagnosis
• Collective or climate grief

You do not need to justify your grief to attend.

Booking is open until midday Thursday 17th September.

20/08/2026

This event is informed by our own experiences of grief, group work and circle holding, and also by the work of Francis Weller and his understanding of the Five Gates of Grief which offers us a framework for the challenges and emotional responses that loss and change can bring.

www.tinyurl.com/grieftendingcircle

Using movement, sound, writing and talking practices, we will invite the untamed nature of grief to be expressed. This is for anyone carrying grief — whether for a person, identity, relationship, health, or the wider world. We work in a trauma-informed way and all sharing and practices are invitational and optional. Share as much or as little as you want.

Held by Lucy Furniss and Louise Allen, experienced facilitators and therapists, both trained in Wild Therapy. We invite you to come together to explore and express grief together.

We’ll gather together to spend the afternoon in the sanctuary of The Quiet View in Kingston. The peaceful gardens overlook the hills of the Kent Downs, nestled by fields and woodland. The land itself forms part of the support for the circle.

Rehydrating after drought.When the soil has hardened, braced, found ways to survive in dormancy ... It takes a while to ...
15/08/2026

Rehydrating after drought.

When the soil has hardened, braced, found ways to survive in dormancy ... It takes a while to be able to reabsorb what is needed.

Too much all at once, doesn't mean it's not needed, but could lead to flooding.

So we must keep coming back to tend the soil with commitment and love and offering the nutrients we do have. Tending the soil of the earth, of our inner world of self compassion and care, of our relationships, of our communities and vocations.

And, the beauty in how we continue to put out tender shoots in some way, trying to grow and meet our needs again and again, even in arid conditions. This continues to move me, bring me to tears, to pride, to awe. Life which we once thought dead and gone, aspects of ourselves or others, of relationships or friends, of our rivers and forests and hills.... can, in the right conditions emerge again with careful tending and/or sometimes just after a fallow period where much has been happening under the surface.

We are all in relationship with the world around us. We do not exist in isolation. We are continually responding to the climate and conditions we live in - social, cultural, familial, environmental. And our inner climate also is in constant relationship with the external and relational conditions, influencing and being influenced by - psychological, the way we talk to ourselves, our life scripts and beliefs, our emotions, our histories.

It is never too late to recommit to living in the ways we want to see thriving in the world.

Join us next Wednesday online for a relaxed and informal discussion about death and dying. Wednesday 1st July, 7pm til 8...
22/06/2026

Join us next Wednesday online for a relaxed and informal discussion about death and dying. Wednesday 1st July, 7pm til 8.30pm UK time.

Spaces are limited to ensure a small group, warm atmosphere and no pressure to talk if you just want to listen.

Email me or pop me a message to reserve your free space.

Registration closes at midday today.We're giving ourselves a few days to hold the group in mind and make sure we're prep...
22/06/2026

Registration closes at midday today.

We're giving ourselves a few days to hold the group in mind and make sure we're prepared for the number of people attending.

Just 3 days left to register for our Grief Tending Circle at the beautiful Quiet View in Kingston, Canterbury (Kent).Com...
19/06/2026

Just 3 days left to register for our Grief Tending Circle at the beautiful Quiet View in Kingston, Canterbury (Kent).

Come and join us for the day to be held and find connection with the North Kent Downs, the birds, trees, flowers, earth and one another.

In a small group, we'll make space for you to allow your grief to breathe and flow. We'll honour these tender and sometimes intense feelings and experiences together. Exploring how ritual can bring us together in community and with the land to give us more support and a way to hold our grief.

There are a few spaces left - we'd love you to join us. The link is is my bio, or visit www.tinyurl.com/grieftendingcircle

With thanks to Charlie Mackesy Allyson Dinneen and for making human experience relatable and reassuring through their words and pictures. We really are better when we're in connection ❤️

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