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Katie's Counselling Realising your self worth, your strength & your confidence, is the most POWERFUL growth you can do 🦋

Your friends love you. 💕�But they’re not trained to hold everything you carry. 🤍Talking to a friend can give you comfort...
08/05/2026

Your friends love you. 💕�But they’re not trained to hold everything you carry. 🤍
Talking to a friend can give you comfort, reassurance, a laugh, a “you’re not crazy” text at 11pm. And that stuff matters so much. We all need people who know us personally and sit beside us in hard moments.
Therapy is different though. 🦋
A therapist isn’t there to just agree with you or tell you what you want to hear. We’re listening for the patterns underneath the story. The coping mechanisms. The relationship dynamics. The parts of you that learned to survive a certain way.
Sometimes therapy looks like:�– finally saying the thing you’ve never said out loud�– understanding why you react the way you do�– learning boundaries without guilt�– realising your anxiety didn’t come from nowhere�– unlearning survival modes that no longer serve you�– feeling supported without worrying you’re “too much”
And honestly? One of the biggest differences is this:�In therapy, the space is completely about you.�You don’t have to filter, minimise, people-please, or take care of the other person’s feelings while you talk.
Friends are important. Therapy is important.�They just serve different purposes — and you deserve both. 🦋

If you’ve been thinking about therapy for a while - reach out. There is no pressure, no commitment. Just ask the questions you want to ask and go from there 💕

𝘼𝙛𝙛𝙤𝙧𝙙𝙖𝙗𝙡𝙚 𝙛𝙡𝙚𝙭𝙞𝙗𝙡𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙖𝙥𝙮 𝙞𝙣 𝙃𝙖𝙧𝙡𝙤𝙬 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙤𝙣𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙚/𝙩𝙚𝙡𝙚𝙥𝙝𝙤𝙣𝙚

🔗 www.katiescounselling.co.uk
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📞 07359 430484

When it’s your birthday, I urge you to spend just a few minutes reflecting. 💭Reflect on all your achievements over the y...
29/04/2026

When it’s your birthday, I urge you to spend just a few minutes reflecting. 💭
Reflect on all your achievements over the years, whether that be your children, 🧑‍🧒‍🧒your home you’ve bought 🏡your jobs you’ve started, the friends you’ve made, the places you’ve visited, the things you’ve seen, and the experiences you’ve faced and managed to get through.
Reflect on your relationships - the loves you’ve left, 💔the friendships that have broken down - because these are not wasted time - these are lessons that have been learnt. Lessons you’ve learnt about yourself, your environment and others. They teach us our everyday growing values, morals and qualities. Lessons about what we accept for ourselves and from others around us.
Reflect on your interactions with others - a simple smile in the grocery aisle might have saved someone from something today. 🫶
Reflect on the grief you’ve felt. Where it feels like you’ve had a hole shot in your stomach and it feels like it’ll never be filled. The losses we’ve had to endure - yet you’ve learnt to grow around it. 😔
Reflect on the mistakes you’ve made, and learnt what you could have done differently.
Reflect on those dark holes you’ve been in where you couldn’t see the light- yet everyday you open your eyes when it feels like the biggest chore in the world.
You keep going because you do have power, 💪you have the instinct to survive - even if it doesn’t feel like it right now.
Because even though it doesn’t seem like it - these are achievements. These are what make you….you. These are what make up our ever evolving character.

These are what add to the painting which is our story, which once started off as a blank canvas. 🦋🦋

08/04/2026

☀️Give yourself grace and ground today☀️

✨Take 5 minutes
✨Step outside barefoot
✨Stand towards the sun and face the rays
✨Close your eyes
✨Just breathe

If you want to, take notice of your breathing, nice and slow. What can you hear? What can you feel under your feet? What can you smell?

Just 5 minutes can help you feel really grounded - especially if you have that fluttering heart rate and tight chest. Nothing fancy, no special techniques - just simple 💕

03/04/2026

What a therapist is actually doing…

It’s easy to say that all we do is ‘just sit and listen all day’ when you don’t know what goes into being a therapist.
There’s so much that goes on ‘behind the scenes’ that you don’t see.
And let’s not forget that all of the tracking, connecting, linking, noticing and recognising we do is different for everyone. All while we have to check in with ourselves and make sure we’re ok aswell!
If you’ve started therapy and feel like nothings happening - remember this post, and remember there is stuff happening every minute of your session. Even when it’s silent!
And not to sound cliché….but trust the process. Change happens naturally and slowly.
You will get there, because you DO hold the power 🦋

𝒜𝒻𝒻𝑜𝓇𝒹𝒶𝒷𝓁𝑒 𝒻𝓁𝑒𝓍𝒾𝒷𝓁𝑒 𝒸𝑜𝓊𝓃𝓈𝑒𝓁𝓁𝒾𝓃𝑔.
𝐵𝒶𝓈𝑒𝒹 𝒾𝓃 𝐻𝒶𝓇𝓁𝑜𝓌 𝑜𝓇 𝑜𝓃𝓁𝒾𝓃𝑒

🔗www.katiescounselling.co.uk
📞07359430484
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27/03/2026

Spend the day with me as a therapist 🦋

A slighter later day for me today because I had the morning off to be with the kids at school 🥰

When starting therapy I inform my clients that I do have little ones so things change from time to time. This is why I work flexibly so I can still have a work life balance - which is something I realised is really important for me.

I give my clients as much notice as I can, and I’m super lucky everyone understands and can resonate - and working flexibly works for them aswell 🤗
Boundaries, time for myself and being a present mum is something I need, and have learnt to give myself permission to have that. 🦋
We must be able to practice what we preach 🙌

20/03/2026

Anxiety has a way of turning our minds into rehearsal spaces for everything that could go wrong. 😒

We play out the worst-case scenarios over and over again… conversations, outcomes, fears that haven’t even happened. And the more we rehearse them, the more real they start to feel.

✨️ But here’s something powerful to remember:
If your brain can rehearse the worst… it can also rehearse the best. 🙌

✨️You can begin to gently shift the script. ↔️
What if it goes well?
What if you handle it better than you expect?
What if things work out in your favour?

This isn’t about pretending everything is perfect. It’s about giving your mind a new direction to practice. 🧠

Because that’s what this is—a rehearsal.

And just like any rehearsal, it doesn’t change in one go. It takes repetition, patience, and consistency. Some days it’ll feel natural, other days it won’t. That’s okay. 🫶

Every time you choose to guide your thoughts toward a more balanced or positive outcome, you’re strengthening a new pathway.

You are not stuck with the patterns your mind has learned.
You can rewire them—one rehearsal at a time. 🦋

𝑨𝒇𝒇𝒐𝒓𝒅𝒂𝒃𝒍𝒆 𝒇𝒍𝒆𝒙𝒊𝒃𝒍𝒆 𝒄𝒐𝒖𝒏𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒍𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒊𝒏 𝑯𝒂𝒓𝒍𝒐𝒘 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒐𝒏𝒍𝒊𝒏𝒆
🔗 www.katiescounselling.co.uk
📞 07359 430484
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💕Sending love today💕
15/03/2026

💕Sending love today💕

💐International Women’s Day 2026 💐On international woman’s day 2026, my son, my first born, turns 18 🎉In 18 years I have ...
08/03/2026

💐International Women’s Day 2026 💐

On international woman’s day 2026, my son, my first born, turns 18 🎉
In 18 years I have been through the hardest times. Times where it felt like there was a black sheet over me and I could see no light. There’s been so much pain that I never thought in a million years my mind would be where it is now. I thought I couldn’t, and I wouldn’t survive.
But here I am…still standing.
I’ve grown so much - not because of where I am now, but of how I navigate life. Times can still be incredibly hard and overwhelming but I’m kinder to myself. I hold myself with more warmth, compassion and grace.
And for that…today, I’m celebrating my resilience, my strength and my empowerment. 💪🦋
We’re always expected to hold it together, and push through….even when it feels like there’s no way out. But there doesn’t have to be shame in asking someone to hold an umbrella over you while you walk in the rain ☔️

Your voice matters.
Your feelings matter.
Your mental health matters.

On international woman’s day 2026, give yourself permission to breathe…and reach out if you feel like you’re drowning and need a hand. 🦋

06/03/2026

✨Things I don’t care about as a therapist…✨

🦋 What you look like - come in your work clothes, come in your pjs, come with no makeup, lay in bed for an online session….. who cares?!? You’ll get the most out of therapy if you’re comfortable!

🦋 Unfiltered language - if you swear….swear! Doesn’t impact therapy AT ALL! And reality check….I swear sometimes too! Use slang if you want - I don’t care… I just might ask what something means 😂 I learn a lot in therapy too! 😂

🦋 Interruptions - if you’re at home in an online session & one of the kiddos needs their t***y wiping….or the dogs going crazy because Amazons been just been delivered… that’s ok! Go tend to your business & I’ll wait!

🦋 Flitting - hopping between topics is totally normal! You’re trying to get out what’s in your head. Go where you need to go and I’ll follow 💕

🦋 Repeating - if you talk about that breakup or your boss for 10 sessions….go for it! It’s obviously what you need and I’ll be right there with you!

🦋 Sharing - if you want to show me a photo of someone, or a convo over text…do it! I’m here for the receipts! 🧾

🦋 Challenge me - if I misunderstand you, or am totally off the mark… correct me! I’m not the expert of your mind….YOU are!

🦋 Emotions - cry! Cry as much as you need for as long as you need! Our space is no space for wiping away the tears! Raise your voice while you’re telling me a story if you need to! It’s not messy…it’s not too much!
It comes out because it has to!

And NEVER apologise for showing emotions! 🙅‍♀️

What is reactive abuse? 💔It doesn't start with you shouting. It's the slow erosion of your sanity.The eye rolls 🙄, the s...
28/02/2026

What is reactive abuse? 💔

It doesn't start with you shouting. It's the slow erosion of your sanity.
The eye rolls 🙄, the silent treatment, the smirks when you're hurt.
The gaslighting - "I never said that," "that was a joke," "it's in your head."
You slowly stop trusting your memory....your reality....and yourself.

You try to stay mature, to communicate better, to be patient....until one day your body can't carry it anymore.
You snap and defend yourself with fire instead of softness. 🤬

And then the flip - "See....you're crazy!"
And all of a sudden, you're painted as the abuser.

Reactive abuse isn't you being toxic. It's you screaming about the smoke when someone has repeatedly lit little fires all around you 🔥

When you stop apologising for surviving what was meant to break you.....the real healing can begin 🦋



𝑨𝒇𝒇𝒐𝒓𝒅𝒂𝒃𝒍𝒆 𝒇𝒍𝒆𝒙𝒊𝒃𝒍𝒆 𝒄𝒐𝒖𝒏𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒍𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒊𝒏 𝑯𝒂𝒓𝒍𝒐𝒘 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒐𝒏𝒍𝒊𝒏𝒆
🔗 www.katiescounselling.co.uk
📞 07359 430484
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