20/08/2026
I used to be the mum who thought I had to do it all. đ§ş
If I was home, I should be doing something.
If the baby was sleeping, I should be cleaning.
If someone offered to help, Iâd say âIâm fineâ.
Basically⌠I was a martyr. đ
What's the point in accepting help it's easier if I just do it. I liked being in control, but at what cost?
And looking back, I wish Iâd understood sooner that accepting help doesnât mean youâre not coping. Resting doesnât mean youâre lazy. And letting someone else take over for a little while doesnât make you any less of a mum.
Sometimes you need to let go a little.
Let someone else hold the baby.
Let the washing wait.
Let someone make you a cup of tea âď¸
Go and have a shower without rushing.
Lie down. Watch something. Scroll. Sit in silence.
And most importantly, give yourself permission to switch your mum brain off for a little while.
Your baby doesn't need you to be âonâ every minute of the day.
You don't have to earn your rest by exhausting yourself first. đ¤
And I say all of this from experience⌠because I was that woman.
So please, don't be a martyr like I was. Let people help you. Rest. Breathe. And remember that looking after yourself is part of looking after your baby too.
Love
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