The Ripple Effect

04/06/2026

Myth: It's just a weekend hangover

Sometimes people ask why I seem tired or quiet after a weekend.

It's not always because I've done too much.

Sometimes grief works overtime when the world slows down.

Weekends used to mean plans, routines, people.

Now sometimes they mean memories.

And memories can be exhausting.

03/06/2026

Myth: It gets easier, you'll see

People mean well when they say this.

But some days, years later, it still hits like a train.

A song.
A smell.
A memory.

What gets easier isn't the grief.

It's knowing you'll survive the wave when it comes.

02/06/2026

Myth: Time heals it

Time doesn't heal grief.

If it did, nobody would still cry years later.

What time does is teach you how to carry it.

You learn how to breathe again.
How to laugh without guilt.
How to have a good day and still miss them.

The grief stays.
You just get stronger.

01/06/2026

Myth: You'll get back to the old you

People often say, "You'll get back to your old self."

I don't think that's true.

Grief changes you. Loss changes you. Life changes you.

The person I was before doesn't exist anymore.

And maybe that's not a bad thing.

The goal isn't to become who you were.
The goal is to learn who you are now.

31/05/2026

Life as a person who is lost and grieving.

After losing someone you love, it's often the simple things that become hard.

You find yourself watching only catch-up TV because your brain can't cope with reprograming the channels.

Letters and emails sit unopened because they feel overwhelming.

You drive in silence because you don't know how to enter the Keycode for the radio after the battery died.

From the outside, these things look small.

But grief isn't just sadness. It affects concentration, memory, motivation, and energy. It changes how you move through the world.

If you're struggling with the little things, you're not failing. You're grieving.

30/05/2026

For me, life felt like it ended when I lost you.

You were everything to me and we walked through sickness together, hand in hand.

Now I’m starting again.

Not really knowing who I am anymore or what I even want sometimes.

But still moving forward.

New life. New me.

Making plans again.

Smiling again.

Having the courage to get it wrong, change my mind, and still look forward to what’s ahead.

Life goes on. And I’m slowly choosing to go with it knowing you wanted this for me.

29/05/2026

Some days I feel hopeful about the future.

Some days I miss him so much it physically hurts.

Both things can exist together.

That’s something grief taught me.

You can carry heartbreak and still slowly begin to live again.

28/05/2026

Thursday ripple…

Grief lives in the body too.

Sometimes in the chest.

Sometimes in the lungs.

Sometimes in the way you hold your breath without even noticing.

I think after loss we spend so much time holding everything in
that eventually the body starts holding it too.

Tight chest.

Shallow breathing.

Always bracing a little.

Maybe healing sometimes starts there too.

One deeper breath.

One longer exhale.

One moment where the body realises it doesn’t have to hold everything alone anymore.

27/05/2026

“No fuss, no filter, no holding back,
Real talk only — we’re keeping it fact.
Late night laughs and stories untold,
No Fuss Podcast — brave, raw, bold.”

https://open.spotify.com/episode/5JBmkLM2nbC0pVElz7QvzT?si=HR4p3go7QRePgFTuYa6xjQ&t=0

No fuss · Episode

27/05/2026

Starting over after loss is strange.

You don’t just lose a person.

You lose routines, dreams, safety, and parts of yourself too.

I’m still figuring out who I am now.

But maybe that’s not failure.

Maybe that’s life asking me to become someone new.