07/08/2026
💙 Making a Difference – One Starfish at a Time ⭐
During my early years in care, around 2010, I had the privilege of attending dementia training delivered by the incredible Deena Heeney MBE. Her passion, knowledge and compassion made a lasting impression on me, but there was one story she shared that has stayed with me ever since.
It was the story of someone walking along a beach, returning stranded starfish to the sea. With thousands along the shoreline, they were asked how they could possibly make a difference.
The answer was simple:
“It made a difference to that one.”
All these years later, that message means just as much to me now as it did then.
Working in health and social care, we can't always change a diagnosis, take away every difficulty or solve every challenge. But we can make a difference to the person in front of us.
We can help someone feel safe.
We can protect their dignity.
We can respect their choices.
We can ease their fears.
We can bring a smile.
We can help a family feel supported and reassured.
And to that one person, those things can mean everything.
Throughout my career I've continued to learn, develop and challenge my own thinking. More recently, having the opportunity to learn from Jan Burns MBE and deepen my understanding of dignity in care has reinforced something that Deena taught me all those years ago — ultimately, good care comes back to seeing, respecting and valuing the individual in front of us.
I still have my original copy of the starfish story, and it now has pride of place on the wall in our Carinyo Care office. It's a daily reminder to myself and our team that every person matters, every act of kindness matters, and every opportunity to make a difference matters.
Thank you, Deena, for a lesson that has stayed with me throughout my career and that I now have the privilege of passing on to others. 💙
Sometimes making a difference isn't about changing the whole world.
It's about changing the world for one person. ⭐