19/05/2026
Hello again world!
It's been a while and feels wonderful to be back.
I've been away, and I was honestly in two minds wheither to share or not just why?
However, authenticity feels more right now than it ever did. My husband and soulmate died in 2024. There is no preperation for this kind of loss. So feeling and being unprepared for the big feelings, I simply listened to my body, hid myself away to feel safer, got therapy, felt messy, allowed all the things that came to run through, be felt and released, reached out to close friends, meditated, did breathwork, walked in nature and sometimes, yes, sometimes I hid unshowered in a darkened room for significant amounts of time and binge watched crap with a gin and tonic in my hand.
I'm rarely hiding away nowadays, but the therapy, the walks, the community and all the lush healing things have been increasing - along with what I'm calling my 'upgrade'.
Grief is tough, trauma is tough, adverse life events well, let's face it, we would all rather not go near them. And when we are in them we do not see the glittering of gold beneath the silt.
But with time, the growth and the learning, in all ways, is a gift. I've think I've grown spiritually, I know myself better, I'm more authentic, more honest even more 'me'. I feel 'upgraded'! And it's this authenticity I am now enjoying bringing back as I return to work with you in my gorgeous therapy space (pictured below).
Come see me in my base in Chopwell (pictured below) or join me from anywhere in the world via the magic technology of ZOOM.
Let's see what gold for you can be found beneath the silt :-).
Check out my website:
https://www.rutholayinka.com (apologies if it's slow - it needs some tlc after over 2 years dormant - I'm on it!).
Or book your 15 minute free consultation here:
https://scheduler.zoom.us/ruth-olayinka