11/08/2026
Another post inspired by an observation...
Do you experience zones where your BFRB urges are more or less frequent or intense? I've mapped mine, and I think it tells me something interesting and important. When we live with urges we can get very focused on the behaviour (the picking, pulling or biting) and maybe not notice that vast areas of our bodies don't experience urges.
I've lived with urges to pull hair for 40 years, but most of the hairy bits of my body don't experience urges. The vast majority of my pulling has been on my head, and even then, there are places without urges. For example, I've never had urges to pull from the front, sides or back of my scalp hair - it's just the crown that was a problem. And even within the confines of my eyelashes (my biggest problem) there are zones that have urges that are much worse (harder to resist) than others.
This is why the area of psychodermatology is so important for understanding BFRBs. BFRBs are not just a generic 'behaviour', or a purely psychological problems, because we focus on specific areas of our bodies, which suggests there is something different about the physiology of the hair/skin in those areas. We need to understand more about how our emotions and skin interact to create urges.
We'll be exploring this at BFRB Con in Oxford this October, and it's not too late to join us! All the info you need is at www.bfrbcon.org.
I'm really interested to hear whether this resonates with others. Is this specific to hair-pulling or can skin-pickers relate too? Are other people's zones completely different to mine? Do they stay the same or move around? I suspect it's very individual, but it would be interesting if there are common patterns.