Tanourish Counselling

Tanourish Counselling Psychotherapist providing counselling to adult individuals online or face to face, based in East Cornwall

What happens when we stop? 🌿Summer is often described as a time to slow down. But for many of us, it can actually be one...
26/08/2026

What happens when we stop? 🌿
Summer is often described as a time to slow down. But for many of us, it can actually be one of the busiest times of the year.
There can be a pressure to make the most of it — fill the diary, see everyone, get outside, exercise, go away, make memories and enjoy every bit of sunshine.
And then September arrives… and we’re exhausted.
But what happens when we stop?
Sometimes, staying busy isn’t just about having lots to do. It can be a way of avoiding stillness — and the thoughts and feelings that might surface when we’re no longer distracted.
We are human beings, not human doings.
Our worth isn’t measured by how productive we are, how much we achieve or how full our diary is.
So as summer comes to an end, perhaps ask yourself:
Did I give myself any space simply to be?
I’ve written a new blog exploring our relationship with busyness, productivity and stillness — and why learning to stop can sometimes be harder than we expect.
Read the full blog via the link in my bio. 💛

14/08/2026

Something I’ve been reflecting on lately — both personally and in my work.
I value being flexible. I want to be understanding, accommodating and someone people can rely on.
But there is a difference between being flexible and continually moving your own boundaries to make things easier for everyone else.
I think this can be particularly difficult when you’re conscientious, caring, or used to being the person who makes things work.
I’ve been reminding myself that I don’t have to say yes to everything simply because I can.
Sometimes the healthier response is:
“That doesn’t work for me.”
“I need more notice.”
“I can do this, but not that.”
And that doesn’t make us selfish, difficult or uncaring.
Boundaries aren’t about caring less about other people. They’re about remembering that you matter too. 🤍
A little reminder I’m taking into both my personal life and my work this week.

What does a therapist actually do outside of the therapy room?When you’re self-employed, there’s a lot more to the job t...
04/08/2026

What does a therapist actually do outside of the therapy room?
When you’re self-employed, there’s a lot more to the job than the hours spent sitting with clients.
There are the obvious things — emails, notes, scheduling, finances and keeping up with training.
But there’s also the less visible work: thinking about how we work, attending supervision, maintaining boundaries, managing our own emotional responses and making sure we have enough space and capacity to be genuinely present with the people we support.
And yes… sometimes it also means trying to fix the Wi-Fi five minutes before a session. 😂
Being self-employed can be incredibly rewarding. I love the autonomy, the flexibility and being able to build a practice that reflects my values.
But it can also be uncertain, demanding and, at times, lonely.
I think one of the biggest misconceptions about therapy is that the therapist simply arrives, has a session and goes home.
The therapy hour is the part you see.
There’s a lot of work behind it that helps make that hour a safe, consistent and supportive space for you. 🤍
And perhaps one of the most important parts of that work is recognising that looking after ourselves isn’t separate from looking after our clients — it helps us do our job well.

28/07/2026

Last year was my very first year in business, and I gave it everything I had.
I loved creating content, connecting on here, and building my practice. It was an exciting season, and social media became a big part of that journey.

This year, I’ve chosen to focus my energy a little differently.

I’ve prioritised supporting my clients in the best way I can, while also making space to support myself.

That has meant travelling, spending quality time with friends and family, making the most of this beautiful summer, getting into the sea whenever I can, and paddleboarding—doing the very things that help me stay grounded and well.

Finding balance isn’t always easy, and if I’m honest, social media has taken more of a back seat than I’d planned.

But as a therapist, I know that looking after ourselves isn’t something we preach—it’s something we need to practise too.

So this is me showing up again, without waiting for everything to be perfect.

If you’ve had to step back from something to make room for what matters most, I hope you know that’s okay. 💚

What’s one thing you’ve been choosing to prioritise lately?

24/06/2026

UK heat can feel relentless right now — and it doesn’t just affect the body, it can quietly wear down your mood, patience, sleep, and sense of calm.
If you’re feeling more irritable, anxious, flat, or overwhelmed, you’re not “overreacting” — heat stress is real, and your nervous system is working harder than usual.
A few gentle reminders from a therapist:
Your capacity may be lower right now — adjust expectations, not your worth
Hydration, shade, and rest aren’t luxuries today; they’re regulation tools
If emotions feel louder, slow the input (noise, screens, demands)
You don’t have to “push through” discomfort to be doing enough
Try to make the day smaller. One hour at a time. One basic need at a time.
And if today is just about getting through it, that is valid progress.

Some conversations feel heavy to start — but silence can feel even heavier.
As therapists, we know suicidal thoughts are...
27/05/2026

Some conversations feel heavy to start — but silence can feel even heavier.
As therapists, we know suicidal thoughts are often rooted in pain, hopelessness, isolation, or exhaustion… not weakness or attention-seeking.
You do not have to carry this alone.
Talking about su***de openly and compassionately can save lives. 🤍
If someone you know is struggling:
• Listen without judgement
• Ask directly if they’re safe
• Stay connected
• Encourage professional support
And if these thoughts feel personal for you right now — support is available, even if your mind is telling you otherwise.
UK Crisis Support & Resources 🇬🇧
📞 NHS Urgent Mental Health Helpline
Call 111 and select the mental health option
📞 Samaritans (24/7)
Call 116 123
📞 SHOUT Crisis Text Line
Text SHOUT to 85258
📞 Papyrus HOPELINEUK (under 35s)
Call 0800 068 4141
Text 07860 039967
📞 Emergency
If someone is in immediate danger, call 999 or go to A&E.
Resources:
• Mind — mind.org.uk
• Rethink Mental Illness — rethink.org
• CALM — thecalmzone.net

26/05/2026

Many people are frightened to talk about suicidal thoughts in therapy because they worry they’ll be judged, punished, or lose control over what happens next.
But suicidal thoughts deserve support, not shame.
Therapists are trained to talk about su***de calmly, directly, and compassionately.
Our role is not to panic — it’s to understand how bad things feel, assess safety, and help someone feel less alone in it.
Sometimes safeguarding conversations are needed.
Not as punishment, but as part of keeping someone safe when things feel unbearable.
You do not have to wait until you are at breaking point to ask for help.
There is support before crisis point 🤍
If you are struggling:
📞 Samaritans: 116 123 (UK & ROI)
📞 NHS 111
🚨 999 or A&E in an emergency

Blame is rarely just about anger.
More often, it’s a protective response to pain we don’t yet know how to hold.Sometimes...
11/05/2026

Blame is rarely just about anger.
More often, it’s a protective response to pain we don’t yet know how to hold.
Sometimes we blame others to avoid feeling powerless.
Sometimes we blame ourselves to create a sense of control.
Either way, blame often points to something deeper: hurt, fear, shame, grief, or unmet needs.
Healing doesn’t begin with finding someone to fault.
It begins with curiosity, self-awareness, and the willingness to ask:
“What’s underneath this reaction?”
Accountability matters.
But understanding the emotional roots beneath blame can change the way we relate to ourselves — and to each other.
Which slide resonated with you most?

29/04/2026

Labels can shape us more than we realise.
What begins as a simple word in childhood—“shy”, “difficult”, “bright”—can quietly become part of how we see ourselves well into adulthood. While labels can help us understand and even access support, they can also limit, define, and carry stigma.
In therapy, I often see the lasting impact of these early narratives—and the powerful shift that happens when people begin to separate who they are from what they’ve been called.
We are not our labels. We are far more complex, fluid, and capable of change. Link 🔗 in the blog ⬆️

23/04/2026

*🚨 SPOILER ALERT 🚨 * I loved this scene in Season 2 of BEEF - it genuinely got my “therapist brain” switched all the way on. Watching Austin hold space the way he does, staying calm, naming what’s really going on underneath the surface, it feels less like a typical argument and more like a live example of emotional attunement. You can see him clock that Ashley’s reactions aren’t random—they’re coming from a deeper fear of abandonment, that anxious attachment where love gets tangled up with the fear of losing it.
It’s such a compelling moment because he doesn’t shame her or pull away—he leans in with understanding, almost like he’s helping her regulate in real time. Scenes like this are so satisfying because they show how powerful it is when someone responds to fear with clarity and steadiness instead of defensiveness.

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