Butterflybees Holistic therapies and organic skincare

25/07/2026

🔥 What Ego Death Really Is

Ego death doesn’t mean you lose your personality or stop knowing who you are. It means the version of you that was built around survival, fear, approval, control, pain, and identity begins to fall apart.

Most of us spend years building a sense of self from what happened to us. We become the strong one, the wounded one, the successful one, the rejected one, the fixer, the protector, the one who holds everything together. Over time, those roles feel so real that we forget they were created. We start believing they are who we are.

Then something shifts.

The old story no longer fits. The things that once mattered begin to feel empty. Relationships change. Goals lose their grip. You may look at your life and suddenly feel like you don’t recognize yourself anymore.

That is why ego death can feel like you are actually dying.

The mind is terrified of losing what is familiar. It doesn’t matter if the old identity was painful. It was known. It gave you a place to stand. So when that identity begins to dissolve, the nervous system can react with fear, grief, panic, confusion, and emptiness.

You are not dying. The version of you that believed it had to control everything is.

Ego death is not always peaceful or beautiful. Sometimes it feels like being stripped of every answer you once trusted. You may feel lost, disconnected, or like you are floating between who you were and who you are becoming.

But that empty space is not punishment.

It is the space left behind when what was false begins to fall away.

You start seeing that you are not your title, your trauma, your mistakes, your reputation, your possessions, or the role you play in someone else’s life. Those things may be part of your story, but they are not the whole truth of you.

Ego death feels like dying because something is dying. The illusion that the identity you created was ever your true self.

What remains is not nothing.

What remains is the part of you that was always there underneath the fear, the performance, and the need to prove yourself.

You don’t lose yourself through ego death. You lose the version of you that was never fully you to begin with.

ZF 🔥

18/07/2026

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20/06/2026

“It's extremely rare to see two people in a relationship for the pure expansion of human consciousness, but when you do, the magnetic energy they emanate is nothing short of holy.

Most people use relationships as coping mechanisms. They haven't grieved something from their past and instead of confronting their inner world they grasp outwards, sometimes clinging to whatever object their hands find.

Anytime a relationship (or friendship) is used as a form of escapism, it slows down your path and eventually causes chaos in your field.

Holy relationships, or friendships, emerge through radical self honesty. When two people are willing to not only open their hearts to one another, but to source itself, the connection becomes a transmission for elevated consciousness to enter through. This creates a prism effect, where the light their fields emit cascades farther into the collective. Connection has the potential to unroot human consciousness from the medieval/dark ages of consciousness, bringing it closer to an age of divinity.

Often, people go into relationships by way of hiding themselves, pretending to be that which they are not. This produces a subtle tension throughout the relationship that resorts in blame/shame tactics which turn a once romantic connection into a battle with the "enemy".

The ego subconsciously wants an enemy to cast its shadow upon. This way the ego doesn't have to take responsibility for its own path. The incapacity to take responsibility for the path you walk is a mode of living in denial.

In a holy connection, both parties take full responsibility for their shortcomings and calmly grow into healthier states of consciousness. Relationships, friendships, can be one of the most powerful catalysts for metaphysical growth, so long as both people are willing to look at themselves.

When I see two people who are raw and vulnerable with one another, who are unafraid to delve into their shadows without casting blame or shame onto eachother during this fragile yet powerful process, I see incredible potential for humanity.”

—Mary Allison

Erotic Creators

26/04/2026

Making 6 rose geranium body butters for a friend and plenty stock up for me for the months ahead too. Makes skin silky soft, reduces signs of aging, smells Devine, preparation for fabulous sun tan and also superb after sun nourishment too.
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Creating your own non toxic nutrient dense products are a very therapeutic, satisfying and economical way to achieve more harmony, great health and joy.

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19/04/2026

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11/04/2026

I’ve listened to 1000’s of people story’s and every single person who has disease, chronic conditions or been diagnosed with mental health illnesses have repressed emotions, needs and desires that have manifested as physical, emotional, physiological symptoms that include lifestyle and relationship issues.

That’s why I’ve studied what I have and on a daily basis continue to soak in the latest research, resources, holistic, functional medicine and spiritual practices. As I am committed to sharing my experiences within my calling to help make a difference to as many people’s healing journey as possible.



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28/03/2026

I read a study that said the odds are “3–5%” of finding "true love." So of course I had to do a deep dive.

The numbers aren't a hard scientific law. It’s more of a synthesis of research from fields like Psychology, Behavioral Economics, and relationship science, especially work influenced by people like Helen Fisher and John Gottman. What it’s really pointing at is this:

Attraction is common, compatibility is selective and alignment is rare. Those are three completely different beasts.

1. Attraction is cheap (your brain is basically a lab rat)

Your brain runs on dopamine, novelty, and pattern recognition. You can feel “this could be something” with a disturbing number of people. Biologically, attraction is driven by systems like:

Dopamine (reward/novelty)
Oxytocin (bonding)
Testosterone/estrogen (desire)

This is why people fall fast, hard, and often… and then wonder why it collapses, because attraction doesn’t screen for:

Emotional maturity
Nervous system regulation
Values
Long-term vision

It just says: “This one feels good. Proceed recklessly.”

2. Compatibility is stricter than people admit

Compatibility isn’t “we like the same music” or “we both love travel.” That’s cute, but it’s not what keeps people together. Real compatibility lives in things like:

Conflict style (do you repair or escalate?) Money beliefs. Lifestyle rhythm. Tolerance for stress and uncertainty,

Research from John Gottman shows that relationships don’t fail because of lack of love. They fail because of unmanaged friction. So now your pool shrinks. From “many people I’m attracted to” → “a handful I can actually function with.”

3. Alignment is where the numbers collapse

This is the part most people underestimate, and it’s why that 3–5% idea even exists. Alignment means, right person, right time, right version of both people

Miss one, and it doesn’t work. You can meet, The right person when you’re emotionally unavailable, the right person when they’re building a life that doesn’t include you, the right person before either of you has the capacity to hold it. Same two people, different timing, completely different outcome.

4. The brutal truth about “true love”

“True love” isn’t found. It’s recognized and then sustained, and sustaining it requires:

Emotional regulation (not losing your mind every time you’re triggered). Repair skills (actually fixing things instead of performing drama), Shared direction (not pulling in opposite futures). Growth tolerance (not resenting who the other becomes) Most people don’t fail to find love.They fail to be the version of themselves that can keep it alive.

5. Why the percentage feels low

It’s not that love is rare. It’s that stable, mutual, well-timed, growth-compatible love is rare. Because, people grow at different speeds, trauma distorts perception, desire changes over time, ife circumstances interfere

So yes, maybe only a small percentage of connections hit that full-stack alignment. But here’s the part people conveniently ignore, that percentage isn’t fixed. It shifts based on who you become. The more, self-aware, regulated, honest, intentional, you are...the more people you filter out early, and the more likely you are to actually recognize the right one when they show up.

6. The uncomfortable conclusion

“True love” isn’t some rare cosmic lottery, It’s more like, two people who are ready, willing, and capable… at the same time… choosing each other again and again without self-sabotaging the entire thing. Which, given human behavior, honestly explains the 3–5% pretty well.

3/26/2026 Tanja Diamond

19/03/2026

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15/03/2026

A man stays where he finds peace. But that peace doesn’t appear on its own… it’s born from respect, understanding, and sincere love. 🤍✨

And a woman can create a very deep sense of peace when she feels protected, valued, heard, and respected. When she knows her presence matters, her voice counts, and her heart is safe. 💞

Because when a woman feels truly loved, her essence blooms. She becomes sweeter, more patient, more understanding… and she turns a home into a space full of calm, support, and affection. 🌷🏡

But it’s important to understand that the responsibility in a relationship doesn’t fall on just one person. It’s not only the man, nor only the woman. Healthy love is built between two people who choose to care for, respect, and support each other every day.
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A real relationship isn’t just about staying together out of habit, fear of being alone, or because of a few beautiful moments. It’s about building something real, growing together, learning from each other, and creating a life where both feel at peace. 🌿✨

Because love isn’t sustained only by sweet words, promises, or intense moments. True love is shown in daily actions—in constant respect, loyalty, attention to small details, patience, and the choice to choose each other even when things aren’t perfect. 💫

In the end, a healthy relationship comes down to something very simple but incredibly powerful: two people who choose each other every day, who care for and respect one another, and who work together to build something worthwhile… something that lasts… something that brings peace to the heart.

~Ancestral Hesling

Erotic Creators

07/03/2026