13/08/2026
We’ve become very good at optimising ourselves and perhaps slightly less good at actually living alongside other people.
The perfect morning routine, the steps, the protein, the skincare, the sleep score and the carefully protected calendar.
None of these things are bad but a life can be incredibly well-managed and still be missing the thing humans are built for: other humans.
Dating is inconvenient by nature. It requires leaving the house when you could stay in. Talking to someone you haven’t pre-approved, spending an evening somewhere without knowing whether it will “pay off”, and that unpredictability is precisely the point. You cannot optimise your way into a meet-cute.
Sometimes the better investment in your wellbeing is the late night, the spontaneous yes, the friend-of-a-friend, the conversation you nearly didn’t start, and occasionally, being a little tired the next morning.
Your routine will still be there tomorrow. The person you could have met might not be.
Perhaps the healthiest thing we could do is stop treating every hour of our lives like it needs to be productive…
