18/09/2026
You say yes when you mean no.
You over-explain.
You worry about disappointing people.
You read the room before you even check in with yourself.
And slowly… you lose touch with what you actually want.
Here’s how you can learn a different way 🤍
Start small:
✨ Pause before automatically saying yes
✨ Ask yourself, “What do I actually want?”
✨ Let someone be disappointed without rushing to fix it
✨ Practise saying a simple “no” without an essay attached
✨ Notice the guilt that comes up... and remind yourself that guilt doesn’t mean you’ve done something wrong
You don’t need to become cold or selfish.
You just need to try to stop abandoning yourself to keep everyone else comfortable.
Psychotherapy can help you understand where these patterns came from and create more space for awareness, compassion and choice.
If you’re ready to start working on this, comment or DM GROW for information about online psychotherapy sessions 🌱