02/06/2026
Many sessions stay with me long after they have ended.
I don’t see what happens during a session as just another client. I simply can’t. I see different processes and I observe how they affect people.
Very often I see a state of freeze and a strong need for control that people bring with them.
A lack of connection with their body and with what is happening inside it.
The body is carrying a huge amount of tension. Sometimes that tension creates pain. Even more often it creates a sense of heaviness, difficulty taking a full breath, and the feeling of being twenty years older than you actually are.
People begin to realise how far they are from feeling light, free in their movement, and comfortable in their own body.
These tensions did not appear overnight.
Most of the time they have been building for years... - through stress, constant pressure, difficult life experiences and a lack of genuine rest.
When the body perceives a threat, the nervous system activates the fight-or-flight response. Adrenaline and cortisol increase, the heart rate rises, breathing changes, muscle tension increases, and the body prepares itself for action and protection.
This is a natural and necessary process.
The problem begins when there is no period of recovery after the period of mobilisation.
A period where the level of activation can come back down, breathing can return to its natural rhythm, and the body can restore balance.
For many people, that state lasts for months or even years.
The tension becomes normal, they stop noticing it and they get used to it.
The nervous system keeps the body in a state of readiness, and the tension becomes a form of protection that the body has learned to rely on. Eventually, this becomes the new normal.
I see it very clearly during sessions.
When I take the weight of someone's arm and ask them to let it relax, a very specific reaction often appears. The arm keeps working and muscles keep holding tension.
The person often becomes aware that they are holding on, but at the same time they cannot fully let go. It's as if the body still feels responsible for controlling the situation.
As if it doesn't trust that it can hand over the weight and stop monitoring the movement.
This is not a conscious decision.
Most often it is a pattern that has been built over many years. The nervous system has learned to stay ready, to monitor, control, anticipate and to protect.
And after a while, that way of functioning starts to feel normal.
Fortunately, the body has an incredible ability to self-regulate.
I see this very often during sessions.
When the body begins to feel safe, things start to change.
Through touch, myofascial work and breathing.
Not only in the body itself, but also in the way it is experienced.
If the main goal of a session is not mobility or working with movement restrictions, what I hear most often afterwards is a sense of lightness, a greater sense of calm, feeling of being more connected to oneself or return of connection with the body.
An awareness of tensions that were there all along but had never been noticed before -and that alone can have a therapeutic effect.
What was previously outside awareness begins to be seen.
It no longer operates in the background, unnoticed.
And that creates the possibility for change.
Sometimes even a slower, calmer breath is enough for part of the tension to begin releasing.
The nervous system gradually learns that it no longer needs to stay in protection all the time...
