25/03/2024
Dear Funny Face,
You are not only sick; you don’t care about your children like you portray. A caring father won’t abandon his children for more than four years (1,500 days). Fight their mother for not answering your calls regularly after four years when she has her own life to live. What happened to the money you raised so you could visit them?
No court will grant you custody of the children due to the behaviour you have shown so far. Ghanaians are tired of you using the children for public sympathy, and your unwillingness to seek help to become healthy. If you truly care for and value the children, you won't put yourself in a position to lose them.
People are talking about you today as your illness has endangered the lives of five people because you hit them with your car. A report suggested you were drunk and driving. We can only pray your illness does not leave those five people with permanent deformities. Something they did not pray or ask for.
Feeling good about being a father is not the same as taking responsibility. Which caring father who is sick won't seek medical help to become better for the children he cares about? How long will it take you to go to Kumasi to see the children you claim to care for?
Nobody is forcing you to go for your children’s mother, but tarnishing her image as a woman and insulting and disrespecting her only shows how immature you are. Which clean man will descend to the gutter to have s*x with a woman in the gutter? Fatherhood is not about s***m donation but rather being present in the child's life: nurturing, raising, guiding, caring for, supporting, and providing for the child.
Your children’s mother is not responsible for your mental and emotional breakdown. You are experiencing that as a result of your lack of emotional and mental maturity, your lack of responsibility, and your unhealthy ways of coping.
The truth might taste bitter or make you feel uncomfortable, but you need to know. Until you seek help to get better, you are a danger to yourself, your children, and the public at large. You cannot continue calling yourself "Children's President" if you cannot learn to be a good father to your own children.
Let this tough situation build you as a strong person, not turn you into a weak person. Wake up!
In conclusion, "Children are fortunate if they have a father who is honest and does what is right" - Proverbs 20:7 (GNT).
- Frank Edem Adofoli
A father, Counselor, ADR Practitioner, Conference Speaker, Author
CEO, The Marriage Consult LTD.
T. +233201435300.
