Sandra Schmidt, Psychotherapy in Parenting & Relationships

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- Trauma informed compassionate inquiry practicioner ( working under the guidance of Dr Gabor Maté)
- HDip in Parenting & Relationships
- CI-Informed Su***de Attention Training 🌸

Can I ask you a favour? ❤️I spend a lot of time creating content, and my hope is always that it genuinely helps someone ...
05/08/2026

Can I ask you a favour? ❤️

I spend a lot of time creating content, and my hope is always that it genuinely helps someone feel a little more understood, supported, or less alone.

Lately, I’ve realised I have so many ideas that I’d love to know what you would find most helpful.

So my inquiry is, what topics would you like me to see more on this page?

✨ Do you prefer talking videos or carousels?
✨ Are there any subjects you’d like me to cover that I haven’t yet?
✨ Is there anything you’d like to see less of?
✨ And what colours or style do you enjoy most on my page?

Your feedback really does shape what I create next. This page isn’t just for me, it’s for all of us.

Thank you for being here and for being part of this community.
It means more than you know. 🌺

Please do share

Boys don’t cry.”For generations, many boys have grown up hearing these words.Most parents didn’t say them to cause harm....
04/08/2026

Boys don’t cry.”

For generations, many boys have grown up hearing these words.

Most parents didn’t say them to cause harm. They were often repeating what had been said to them.
They believed they were preparing their sons for a tough world.

But when a child learns that sadness, fear or vulnerability aren’t welcome, those feelings don’t disappear.

They simply go underground.

Sometimes they return as anger.
Sometimes as silence.
Sometimes as perfectionism, anxiety, emotional distance, or a lifetime of believing they have to carry everything alone.

Real emotional strength isn’t about never crying.

It’s about knowing your emotions are safe to feel, safe to express, and safe to share with someone who cares.

Imagine how different the next generation could be if our boys heard:

“I can see you’re hurting.”
“It’s okay to cry.”
“I’m here with you.”

Because when we make space for a boy’s tears, we’re not making him weaker.

We’re helping him become a man who can love deeply, connect honestly, ask for help when he needs it, and break cycles that may have been carried for generations.

💥 What messages about emotions did you hear growing up, and how do you think they’ve shaped you today?

Some mornings, anxiety is already there before you’ve even opened your eyes.Your mind starts racing.Your heart feels hea...
01/08/2026

Some mornings, anxiety is already there before you’ve even opened your eyes.

Your mind starts racing.
Your heart feels heavy.
Your body feels as though it’s already preparing for something that hasn’t happened.

It can feel as though you need to fix yourself before the day can begin.

But what if your nervous system isn’t asking you to do more…

What if it’s asking you to slow down long enough to notice what it needs?

Healing doesn’t always begin with a breakthrough.

Sometimes it begins with a sip of water.
A hand on your heart.
Feeling your feet on the floor.
Opening the curtains.
Taking one gentle breath.

Small moments of safety can slowly teach your nervous system that today is not yesterday.

If you woke up feeling anxious this morning, I hope this carousel reminds you of one thing:

You don’t have to earn your way back to calm.

You only have to meet yourself with a little more compassion than yesterday.

💥 Save this for the mornings when you need a gentle reminder, and share it with someone who might need it too.

You’re the friend everyone calls in a crisis — but no one asks how you’re doing.💥 You over-function at work, carrying th...
30/07/2026

You’re the friend everyone calls in a crisis — but no one asks how you’re doing.
💥 You over-function at work, carrying the load quietly rather than asking for help.
💥 You feel responsible for your partner’s moods, even ones that have nothing to do with you.
💥 Rest feels like something you have to earn, not something you’re allowed.
💥 You struggle to name what you need, because you were never asked.
💥 You pick partners or friendships that need managing …because being needed feels safer than being lo
But adaptive isn’t the same as sustainable.

The work now isn’t about being less caring. It’s about learning that you’re allowed to be looked after too. 🌺

Which one hit hardest for you, struggling to say no, or feeling guilty when you rest?
Do share 👇

What if you’ve been judging yourself for the very things that once helped you survive?So many of us grow up believing we...
26/07/2026

What if you’ve been judging yourself for the very things that once helped you survive?

So many of us grow up believing we need to be stronger, tougher or less sensitive.

But what if…

💥 always being the strong one was survival?
💥 struggling to ask for help was protection?
💥 needing control helped you feel safe?
💥 anxiety wasn’t your identity, but your nervous system staying on guard?

We spend years trying to “fix” ourselves, when perhaps the first step is understanding why those patterns developed in the first place.

Self-compassion isn’t making excuses.
It’s recognising that your younger self did the best they could with what they had.

And when we meet those protective parts with curiosity instead of criticism, real change becomes possible.

💥💥 Which slide resonated with you the most?

When loneliness comes to visit…Have you ever felt lonely while being surrounded by people?Wondering if anyone really car...
26/07/2026

When loneliness comes to visit…

Have you ever felt lonely while being surrounded by people?
Wondering if anyone really cares.
Not wanting to face the world.
Feeling ashamed that you’re struggling, especially when you’re the one who usually holds space for everyone else.

Sometimes loneliness isn’t about being alone.
Sometimes it’s sadness that feels too heavy to carry.
It’s grief, It’s numbness, showing up as no motivation.
and no energy.

As you know, I love metaphors, I see it as
standing at a crossroads

One path is your inner critic whispering,
“Pull yourself together.”

The other quietly says,
“Stop… just for a moment.
Feel what needs to be felt.”

Something I’ve been noticing, both personally and professionally, is this…

When we stop fighting those difficult days and gently allow ourselves to move through them, something begins to shift, no it’s not going to happen overnight.
but maybe you start noticing quietly, that
you react a little less.
You stop feeling you have to defend yourself
You stop fighting so hard to be seen.

Perhaps that’s because so much of our pain comes from believing we aren’t truly seen, valued or understood.

My mentor, Dr Tony Humphreys, often reminds us that healing isn’t about finally getting everyone else to see us.

It’s about beginning to see ourselves.
Recognising our own worth.
Accepting that we don’t have to carry everyone else’s struggles to be loved or to be enough.

So, maybe healing isn’t always about feeling happier.
Maybe it’s about coming home to yourself.
And yes, this comes from my own personal experience, as
I’m still walking this path too.

If these words help just one person feel a little less alone today, then sharing them has been worth it. 🌺

Strength isn’t always loud.Sometimes it’s the mother who gets up after another sleepless night.The person who keeps show...
25/07/2026

Strength isn’t always loud.

Sometimes it’s the mother who gets up after another sleepless night.
The person who keeps showing up even when nobody sees how hard they’re trying.
The one who feels like giving up but chooses to take one more step.

Real strength isn’t about never struggling.

It’s about staying connected to yourself in the middle of the struggle.

You don’t have to have it all together.
You don’t have to prove your worth by carrying everything alone.

Sometimes the strongest thing you can do is ask for support, rest, or simply admit, “Today is hard.”

Strength and vulnerability can exist together.

💥 Which slide resonated with you the most?

There are moments after separation when you’re trying to hold everything together…You’re grieving the relationship.You’r...
23/07/2026

There are moments after separation when you’re trying to hold everything together…

You’re grieving the relationship.
You’re worrying about your children.
You’re trying to be strong when, inside, you feel anything but.

If this is you, I want you to hear this.

Your child doesn’t need a perfect parent.

They need a parent who keeps showing up.

One hug.
One conversation.
One bedtime story.
One moment where they know, “I’m not alone.”

Those small moments matter far more than having all the answers.

And while you’re caring for them, don’t forget about yourself.

You deserve support too.

Because when you have space to breathe, rest and feel held, it becomes so much easier to stay emotionally available for your child.

You’re allowed to grieve the family you imagined.

And you can still create a childhood filled with love, safety and connection.🌺

💥 If you could tell one struggling parent something today, what would it be?

“ Gentle parenting isn’t working for us.”I hear this from parents all the time.Most of the time, it isn’t because they’r...
21/07/2026

“ Gentle parenting isn’t working for us.”

I hear this from parents all the time.

Most of the time, it isn’t because they’re doing it wrong.

It’s because they’re trying to stay calm with a nervous system that’s already overwhelmed.

When stress takes over, patience becomes harder to access.
Your thinking brain goes offline.
You react before you’ve had a chance to respond.

That doesn’t make you a bad parent.
It makes you human.

Children don’t need perfect parents.

They need parents who notice when they’ve become overwhelmed, who come back, who repair, and who stay connected.

You won’t get it right every time.

None of us do.

The goal isn’t perfection.

It’s noticing sooner, repairing when needed, and helping your child learn that relationships can recover after difficult moments.

Because it’s not the parenting label that changes everything.

It’s the safety, regulation and connection underneath it.

💥 what is your challenge when it comes to parenting?

As children, we don’t decide who we’re going to become.We adapt.💥 We notice what keeps the peace.💥 What gets attention.💥...
18/07/2026

As children, we don’t decide who we’re going to become.

We adapt.

💥 We notice what keeps the peace.
💥 What gets attention.
💥 What keeps us connected.
💥 What helps us avoid rejection or conflict.

Over time, these adaptations can become part of our identity.

💥 The people pleaser.
💥 The perfectionist.
💥 The caretaker.
💥 The one who never asks for help.
💥 The one who pushes everyone away before they can be hurt.

These weren’t personality flaws.

For many of us, they were survival strategies.

The beautiful thing about therapy is that it helps us recognise these patterns with compassion, rather than judgement. Once we understand why they developed, we no longer have to live by them.

💥 Which role do you recognise most in yourself?

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