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Ulezi Using personal development to mitigate mental health problems in Adolescents.

I am on a mission to raise a resilient generation. A generation that will be free of childhood traumas. A generation tha...
23/01/2024

I am on a mission to raise a resilient generation. A generation that will be free of childhood traumas. A generation that will not need to parent themselves as they parent. A generation that will look forward to living life in abundance because someone stood up for them and guided them.

They say that a society saves itself. We have gotten to a point where we need to save ourselves. We need to save our own. The bible says in Proverbs 13:22 that a wise man leaves an inheritance for his children's children. We need to leave an inheritance for our grandchildren. An inheritance of sober parents. An inheritance of present and caring parents.

And this can only be realised if we get involved now. If we start early, stay consistent and endure. As an adolescent coach, I talk about their personal development plus age appropriate s*x education. You can be part of this by simply liking, sharing and commenting.

This is the face of self inflicted torture. Face of victory. Bagged my third 42k medal. This one was supposed to be 21k....
31/10/2023

This is the face of self inflicted torture. Face of victory. Bagged my third 42k medal. This one was supposed to be 21k. Even when I was signing up I was like 21 is not enough but 42 is also too much for me. They should have a 32k or 35k category.

So I started with the 21k guys at 6:45am. Telling myself that I was out to have fun. I danced 💃🏿 at each music station for like 30 second or a minute before going on with the run. I knew it would be 2.5 hrs tops 3 hours and I am done. 21k is fun. I was not looking for any personal bests on Sunday. So it was a slow and dance filled run.

When I reached the 21k finishing turn, I saw an old man, like 73. He had just taken the 42k run turn.I call it the lonely road. It has very few takers. I scolded myself "how can you branch off at 21 when this mzee at his age is doing 42? Shame on you!" I even told him how he inspired me to do the 42k. And that is how I took the lonely road and did a full marathon. There were more music stations even on the lonely road: I danced 💃🏿 and ran some more.

I also made a friend. I caught up with her at 23k she was walking and just like the mzee, she was determined to finish. It was her first time doing a full marathon. She was doing it because she is turning 42 in November. Coincidentally we share a birthday 3rd of November 🤗

This year felt better. Last year was brutal. The sun was scotching hot and the fact that I was not familiar with the route and terrain made it look like 84 kilometres 😅. The weather this year was for running an ultra marathon. It was perfect.

Let me tell you maina! after 35 kilometres your feet become numb you just move because stopping will feel worse. At this point you feel every little thing under your feet. This is where they say running a marathon is mental. Mind over matter.

We limp to the finish line saying never ever but once we get the medal, we start scouting for the next one.

13/10/2023

We need to change tact if we are to do this effectively. Children and adolescents just need knowledge for their level but we often over think and go overboard. When you talk to them at their level, they are able to listen and learn.

Are you finding it difficult to talk to your child about s*x? Do you cringe when asked something to that effect? I know ...
19/09/2023

Are you finding it difficult to talk to your child about s*x? Do you cringe when asked something to that effect? I know you want to be comfortable around your child and guide them through this. This will be an eye opening session. You don't want to miss it. I will be demystifying the dreaded s*x talk. See you on 26th at lunch hour.

I landed on psychology by default. I wanted to do something on the personal development of women. I wanted to help women...
18/09/2023

I landed on psychology by default. I wanted to do something on the personal development of women. I wanted to help women to prevent later life resentment and bitterness. I wanted to help them focus on themselves even as they supported their families. Then a thought hit me, why do we need to wait until they have made mistakes? Some life altering and even life threatening before we help them?

This thought changed my focus from women to children. Particularly mine. I began to look for courses on personal development and that is how I landed on child and adolescent psychology. I wanted to be a different mother. I wanted to give them a better side of me than what they were experiencing. But I felt frustrated despite my best efforts and intentions. I felt like I was walking on egg shells. I was present, intentional and involved. My children were beginning to see the better me but I was not feeling it. I told God that there had to be a better way. There was no way I was feeling that bad when I was just trying to do the right thing.

Then I realized that for this to work, I had to work on myself. But therapy is not pocket change. It is not cheap. So I embarked on a self-healing journey. Lots of hard work. It is a hard, rough and tough but also very fulfilling journey. I realized that the most difficult person I would ever have to deal with mentally, was me. You see human beings are self-preserving by nature and the most unpleasant past experiences are stored at the back of our minds; forgotten because we don’t want to relieve the things that harmed us. We don’t want to deal with difficult issues. But you have to do it if you want to live the life that you were meant to. Those little annoyances and reactions that you exhibit need to be investigated just a little. And you will un earth a new and pleasant you.

I came up with a way to work on my past and prevent it from interfering negatively with my present. I began by acknowledging the feelings and reactions that were not proper. Self regulation, self awareness, self control. Through self therapy, I came up with strategies that are helping me cope and deal with issues with little or no help from a therapist. I now feel better. I am enjoying motherhood. There are instances where I just stay alone with the children to enjoy them. They love being around me and I around them. Self therapy is an ongoing thing. Just like we schedule fitness we should also schedule it in our lives.

I am still working on myself, present and past issues but I am at a point in my life where I am thoroughly enjoying motherhood. I pray that you get to that point too. It’s a beautiful place to be in as a parent. Trauma free parenting starts with your mental wellbeing. I am here to help. Reach out on 0728581917

01/09/2023

Puberty is an exciting and confusing time for children but you can make it bearable by being there for them, walking them through it because it is a natural process.

I travelled with the girls to the village over the August holidays. I am at a point in my life where I am enjoying mothe...
31/08/2023

I travelled with the girls to the village over the August holidays. I am at a point in my life where I am enjoying motherhood. When my second was about 1.5years old, I said that we enjoy parenthood once they are grown and all we are left with is just memory. Now I know that I was wrong. You can actually enjoy parenting. I enjoy being around my children and the enjoy being around me. So I decided to go home with the three of them alone! And there was no single day I wished I had carried help. We had fun. They got dirty and I gladly washed the clothes. They were constantly playing with sand and water. Chasing after cows and goats. They were being thmselves. I was just making sure I knew where the one year old was. But by evening everyone was tired and ready to sleep. I pray that You get to enjoy your children and they too enjoy your company. It is a good place to be in as a parent.

Our past influences how we parent. No one prepares or teaches you how to parent. We all parent according to what we thin...
28/08/2023

Our past influences how we parent. No one prepares or teaches you how to parent. We all parent according to what we think is right for our children. But in reality, we are just mimicking what happened in our environment. But times have changed and our children need us to do better. They deserve better. Join us and other like minded parents as we embark on a journey to find ourselves. To heal from our past and to parent better.

The August holidays are here, enroll your child to this class where they will be equipped to navigate puberty and adoles...
14/08/2023

The August holidays are here, enroll your child to this class where they will be equipped to navigate puberty and adolescence. We use personal development to help adolescents navigate puberty, peer pressure, body image, relationships, trauma and s*xuality. This program gives them skills that will enable them live their lives to the fullest. They will be able to make informed decisions and be more stable because it takes them from Puberty 10 years to 17 years; a period where they decide their future. We are here to guide them; to help them and to equip them with the necessary tools needed at this critical period.

Here is a simple breakdown of what we do . Our aim is for the children to be all rounded excelling or atleast developing...
14/08/2023

Here is a simple breakdown of what we do . Our aim is for the children to be all rounded excelling or atleast developing all the aspects of their personal development. All we ask of you as a parent or guardian, is to support them in all ways in this period. One common comment from adolescents is that 'we (parents) don't listen to them'. By not listening we are sending them away, we are telling them that they don't matter. But when we listen to them we are encouraging them to open up, to let us into their confusing growth process and to trust us. I am here to make a change. Join me and together let's raise a resilient generation; let's make the world a better place for our grandchildren.

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