16/02/2026
Real Life Scenario:
So you sit down to have a bite with dada (your grandpa) who has dementia. He is finished and orders you to take up his plate, but you are still eating. So you quietly said "ok, dada in a minute". You know you will clear the table when you are done eating but every 30 seconds he repeats the same thing. He forgot he said it before each time.
What Is Happening in Dada’s Brain? His brain is injured. He is not being rude.
🧠 #1. His short-term memory is damaged
Dementia damages the part of the brain that stores new information. So when he says:
“Take up my plate.” And you reply:
“Okay, Dada, in a minute.” Within seconds…
He forgets:
-That he asked
-That you answered
-That time has passed
To him, it feels like: “I asked… and no one responded.”
So he asks again. And again. And again.
Not because he is demanding — but because his brain cannot “hold” the memory.
🧠 #2. Judgment and Awareness Are Weakened
Dementia also affects:
-Understanding social timing
-Awareness of others’ needs
-Ability to see the whole situation
His brain no longer processes those social cues properly.
He no longer can register that:
-You are still eating
-It is polite to wait
-Clearing happens after everyone finishes
🧠 #3. His Brain Is Stuck in the Present Moment
People with dementia often live in a 30-second world. Each moment feels new.
There is no memory bridge connecting:
-The last request
-Your response
-The passing of time
So every request feels like the first time.
****Caregiver tip****
Instead of a long explanation, try this:
-Smile.
-Touch his shoulder.
-Say, "Yes Dada, I will take it."
-Gently change the subject or task.
Focus on providing calm reassurance and managing the surroundings rather than trying to correct the individual. If needed:
-Cover it with a napkin.
-Stack it quietly with yours.
-Redirect his attention by asking: “How was the food today?”
My friends, the more you understand, the less frustrated you'll feel...
