Charlene Borg M Sys Psy

Charlene Borg M Sys Psy Couple and Family Therapist;
Individual therapy;
Clinical Supervisor.

Often, one forgets to consider the time and space required between the desire to change and when change actually happens...
13/08/2026

Often, one forgets to consider the time and space required between the desire to change and when change actually happens.
Within relationships, the tolerance of this process needs to include:

1. Trust in each other, especially when mistakes occur.
2. Safety to talk about the struggles along the way.
3. Understanding that the change process is NOT linear.

Image with compliments of Space

Couples are often reminded of the Maltese proverb 'Kelma nieqsa aħjar minn kelma żejda' Translated to couple-hood, this ...
06/08/2026

Couples are often reminded of the Maltese proverb 'Kelma nieqsa aħjar minn kelma żejda' Translated to couple-hood, this means choose NOT to add language that hurts or is disrespectful to what you have to say. It does NOT encourage couples to avoid speaking their truth. Deciding not to share one's truth, disappointments, or emotions will bring about distance and resentment.

Images with compliments of Global Development Foundation.

Many people bring to therapy a deep sense of disconnect, even while surrounded by friends or sitting inside a relationsh...
01/08/2026

Many people bring to therapy a deep sense of disconnect, even while surrounded by friends or sitting inside a relationship.

​When we begin to unpack that isolation, we often discover a low tolerance for real intimacy. It can feel far safer to hover on the periphery of relationships, maintaining a shallow presence to avoid the risk and messiness of true vulnerability.

​But low-effort presence will never yield high-value connection. True intimacy isn't always smooth or convenient; it requires the courage to step up, show up, and tolerate the messy, beautiful work of being known.

30/07/2026

Slow is Fast
Do NOT focus on how fast you want to get over your challenges but how far you can go at a steady reflexive pace!

25/07/2026

Feeling seen & witnessed in a relationship is a core need for intimate connection. It validates identity, history and nurtures emotional safety & secure attachment.

Key pillars:
1. Emotional validation of each other's internal world - what you feel is real. Feedback & problem solving do not need to be immediate.
2. Deep trust and attachment security - knowing our partner recognizes and loves our authentic self. This reduces fear of rejection when revealing our rawest thoughts & feelings.
3. Co-regulation of the nervous system through interpersonal connection.
4. Being a mirror for personal growth - giving each other the space to grow & evolve without the fear of losing the bond.

20/07/2026

When someone we love has strong beliefs that are different from ours, it challenges our sense of safety and closeness to them.

What helps:
1. Differentiate the person from their position. They are trying to protect themselves like you are.
2. Remind yourself who they are outside of the debate.
3. Shift from debate to dialogue, where the goal is to understand, not convert one another.
4. Establish relational dialogue boundaries which help to have the conversation. Even if it requires some pauses and reassure one another that you still value each other while agreeing to disagree.

Letting go and trusting the process is one of the most alive practices in therapy. When one lets go of the control over ...
14/07/2026

Letting go and trusting the process is one of the most alive practices in therapy. When one lets go of the control over the outcome and focuses on the present moment.
Releasing the tension of holding control gives space to growth and teaches us:
1. To differentiate between control and influence. We can to some extent control our effort, boundaries, preparation, NOT timing and other people's reactions.
2. To make friends with the messy phase of the 'in between' and learn to embrace uncertainty.
3. Trusting the process is NOT resignation. Its having faith in one's own capabilities & resilience. Trusting we can navigate any outcome.

Images with compliments of Christine Whone

06/07/2026

Mistakes make us human, not bad people

22/06/2026

At the onset of my journey becoming a psychotherapist I was asked:

How do I know what I know?
How do I know that what I know is true?

I still carry these questions with me today professionally and personally, as they help me identify:

1. The source - Did I learn this from direct experience or was it inferred from someone else?
2. The selectivity - What information do I filter in and filter out to keep confirming this belief?
3. Knowledge as truth vs. knowledge as workability. Leaning towards behaviors that bring wanted results, rather than maintaining a truth that leads towards repetitive attempted solutions becoming the problem.

A belief can be highly viable for survival and simultaneously unworkable for intimacy and relationships. The aim is not necessarily to change beliefs completely but to become flexible in how we apply them.

So then I ask myself: If I were to temporarily suspend what I 'know' and act 'as if' I knew the exact opposite, what would I do differently? And, what would be the relational result of that shift in belief?

Images with compliments of Promod Puri.com

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The Pembroke Health Hub, . Paths, G'Mangia. The Therapy Center
Paola

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+35679051241

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