I Change the book of Life Coach Dr. M

14/08/2026

Have you ever wondered why two people can go through exactly the same situation, yet walk away feeling completely differently?

One becomes angry.
The other stays calm.

One sees rejection.
The other sees feedback.

One becomes afraid.
The other becomes curious.

The situation may be the same. But the memories processing that situation are not.

We often believe we are responding to what is happening now. But sometimes, without even realising it, we are also responding to what happened then.

Past experiences leave memories. Some are positive and empowering. Others carry fear, pain, disappointment, rejection or even trauma. When something happens today, our mind does not necessarily process it on a completely clean slate. It draws upon what has already been stored within us.

And that is where our biases can begin.

We don’t always see people and situations simply as they are. We may see them through the lens of what we have experienced before.

Perhaps that is why the same words can encourage one person and hurt another. Why one person trusts easily while another becomes suspicious. Why something that seems insignificant to you can trigger a powerful emotional reaction in someone else.

Before asking, “Why did I react like that?”

Perhaps there is a deeper question:

“What within me reacted to that?”

Sometimes the present is only the trigger.

The story behind the reaction may have begun a long time ago.

That is where change can begin.

20/06/2026

What if this is not really about today?
Many times, we think we are overthinking because of what just happened. A message we received. A conversation that did not go well. A decision we need to make. A person who disappointed us. A situation that made us feel unsure.
But sometimes, the mind is not only reacting to today. It may be reacting to something that has been quietly sitting inside us from a recent past experience. A fear that was never fully settled. An anxiety that was pushed aside because life had to go on. A disappointment we told ourselves we had already moved on from. Or a subconscious need to protect ourselves from feeling hurt, rejected, embarrassed, or not good enough again.
That is why overthinking can feel so tiring. It is not always because the issue is big. Sometimes the issue is small, but it has touched something deeper inside us. Then the mind starts replaying, predicting, defending, explaining, imagining, and preparing for problems that may not even happen.
And before we realise it, we are no longer fully present. We are awake at night. We are distracted at work. We are physically with our loved ones, but mentally somewhere else. We are hearing but not really listening. We are sitting still, but inside the mind is running in circles.
The first step is not to fight the mind. The first step is to notice the loop.
Pause for a moment and ask yourself, “Is this really about what happened today, or has today triggered something unresolved inside me?”
That one question can create a little space. And sometimes, that little space is where change begins.
This is often the work we explore in life coaching. Not just positive thinking. Not just motivation. But learning to see what is quietly running our reactions, our choices, our fears, and our emotional patterns.
Because sometimes, the problem is not that you cannot change. Sometimes, you simply have not yet seen the hidden loop clearly enough.
'I Change' begins when you notice.

18/06/2026

The Dental Nurses workshop over the weekend brought out the fun and colour of the 140 participants. I am not sure if they had more fun or I did

18/06/2026

Not every body is ready to be coached. Or open to coaching. And sadly can afford coaching. As a coach I understand that and somehow I put it down to - its just not the right time yet for them. They ought to decide and make it the right time and make that time now. We all have that choice. Anyone can choose that time to be now and here. Credit for the poster goes to a Geraldine Gauthier

17/01/2026

We all have days where you feel lost or need answers or simply make sense. Or when you feel anxious, overwhelmed, or just stuck. don’t worry it happens to the best of us - me included.
That’s why I developed the 4 Quadrant Mind Model (4QMM) not to give you more work to do, but to offer you a guide when you feel lost. Think of it as a way to gently understand what is happening inside your Mind.
How this model helps you heal:
* Find Clarity: Instead of feeling “broken,” you can see which part of you needs focus and rectification —is it an old memory? dragging up painful childhood memories? Or a tired processor? Over thinking and critically analysing ? Or perhaps a conflict in values?
* Be Kind to Yourself: When you understand how your mind works, you stop blaming yourself for struggling. You start supporting yourself instead.
* Inner Peace: It’s hard to fight an invisible enemy. This model turns the lights on so you can navigate your inner world with grace and compassion.
You are not your thoughts. You are the one experiencing them. Let’s learn to navigate them together. 🙏✨
MentalWellness HealingJourney 4QMM

16/12/2025

13/12/2025

Advicing a Friend? Ready to turn talk into action?

We all want to help the people around us succeed. But often, our well-meaning advice just doesn’t stick.
Why? Because real change requires structure.
Professional coaching isn’t just a “nice conversation.” It is a disciplined, structured approach used by trained professionals to ensure a specific outcome is achieved in every session.
The image above outlines the GROW Model, a simple yet profoundly effective tool that anyone can learn to use. It moves a person from a vague desire to a concrete commitment by following four essential steps: Goals, Reality, Options, and Will.

When you learn to structure your conversations this way, you stop just “talking about problems” and start engineering solutions. Making a real impact in someone’s life.
This time-tested process is the cornerstone of great coaching. If you are ready to make a real difference in others’ lives, mastering this flow is your first step toward becoming a coach yourself.
Learn more at www.coachdrm.com

28/11/2025

Mind over matter is something we know but rarely do we practice. It all starts in the Mind.