17/07/2026
Dear Singles and Married
The danger ‼️ of comparing your journey with others.
- Two 2️⃣ weeks ago, we had a talk with a group of Christian Women on a Platform known as “The Zipporah’s Company “ where we discussed the topic above. I will share a little from that discussion.
Danger‼️ (meaning)
* The probability or state of being exposed to injury,harm, or loss.
- Hazard, Risk
Comparing/Comparison (meaning)
- the act of comparing two or more people or things:
- the fact of considering something similar or of equal quality to something else:
- an examination of the differences between persons or things:
- At one time or another we all have struggled with the matter of comparison especially because we live in a world/society that constantly shows you what you don’t have.
- We’ve compared our physical appearance
- Our husbands
- Our Children (school, character,etc)
- Our Houses
- Our jobs
- Our clothes , jewelry, shoes, bags…)
- Our cars
- Our lives journey.etc
While it is good to watch and learn from others, it is dangerous to compare.
Dangers of Comparison
1. Envy
“A sound heart is life to the body, But envy is rottenness to the bones.”
Proverbs 14:30 NKJV
- Comparing yourself/marriage will soon lead to envy/jealousy when you become constantly aware of what you do not have which others seem to have.
- Envy can lead you to hate and resent people.
2. It makes you feel you’re not doing enough or do not have enough.
Galatians 6:4 GW
“Each of you must examine your own actions. Then you can be proud of your own accomplishments without comparing yourself to others.”
- No matter what God has blessed you with, if you constantly compare yourself with others, you will begin to think that you are constantly falling short.
- Not minding how “green your own grass” is, you will always think that the grass is greener on the other side.
- You will never understand what it means to be content.
I Timothy 6:6 NKJV
“Now godliness with contentment is great gain.”
3. Competition
- The moment you start comparing, you start competing.
4. Pride (of supposed achievements)
- The moment you start comparing, you think you are better than others and may not make any progress beyond where you were.
- This will bring Stagnation(because of perceived achievements)
5. It destroys relationships
- Comparing yourself with others will make you unable to keep your relationships genuine thus destroying them.
6. It puts unnecessary pressure on you, your spouse and family.
- You never see when you are doing well.
- You never see what your partner is doing right.
- You never see what your children are doing right.
- Everything and everyone will always fall short before you and that could make you a bitter person.
Exodus 20:17 GNT
““Do not desire another man's house; do not desire his wife, his slaves, his cattle, his donkeys, or anything else that he owns.””
7. It is a Sin
- Comparison is rooted in worry which is sin.
- When you worry, you are unable to see what God has done or is doing in your life and marriage.
- When you compare, you are not grateful to God for what He has done or is doing in your life and marriage and thus you are not grateful.
- Comparison will rob you of seeing the goodness of God in your life and marriage.
- You are always comparing and so cannot be thankful.
Does This Mean You Should Not Admire or Learn From Others and Their Marriages?
Not at all!
ADMIRE (meaning)
- Admire is a verb that means to regard someone or something with a high level of respect, approval, or pleased wonder. It can refer to appreciating someone's character and abilities, or looking at something physically beautiful with pleasure.
- You admire them because of their Character & Morals: Respecting someone for their unwavering honesty, kindness, or humility.
- Achievements & Skills: Being in awe of someone's talent, resilience, or hard work.
- Inspiration: Looking up to someone because they motivate you to become a better version of yourself.
- To admire someone means to hold them in high esteem, looking up to them for their actions, character, or achievements. It is a blend of deep respect, approval, and affection. When you admire a person, you typically feel inspired by them and value their positive qualities.
- Admiration will lead you to become inspired by another person, learn from them, desire to do, and become better, but never to compete with them.
- While comparison could destroy you, admiration can help you grow.
In Conclusion,
- If we do not deal with the matter of comparison fast, it can become an obsession that consumes us.
I Samuel 18:7-9 NKJV
“So the women sang as they danced, and said: “Saul has slain his thousands, And David his ten thousands.” Then Saul was very angry, and the saying displeased him; and he said, “They have ascribed to David ten thousands, and to me they have ascribed only thousands. Now what more can he have but the kingdom?” So Saul eyed David from that day forward.”
- It is probably because you are busy comparing that you are still at the same spot.
- While you waste time comparing, others are building and growing.
- Remember, it is a lack of wisdom for you to compare yourself with others.
“For we dare not class ourselves or compare ourselves with those who commend themselves. But they, measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise.”
II Corinthians 10:12 NKJV
Yours Christiana Ibrahim Ambi
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