16/08/2026
Marriage Is Not a Game
May Allah bless every single person with a righteous and loving spouse. 🤲❤️
Basmad’s experience is a beautiful reminder that marriage does not always have to take years of endless courtship. He shared that it took only three months from their first meeting to marriage, and their Nikah itself was completed in just 30 minutes. Alhamdulillah.
Our Nigerian sisters, this is a gentle reminder: if you meet a good man who is serious, responsible, compatible with you, and genuinely wants marriage, don't turn the relationship into an endless waiting game.
Courtship should have a clear destination: Nikah. It should be a period of getting to know each other appropriately, involving families, asking important questions, seeking advice and praying Istikhārah—not years of emotional attachment, unnecessary intimacy and promises without commitment.
Marriage should not be rushed blindly, but neither should it be unnecessarily delayed because of unrealistic expectations, excessive ceremonies, financial competition or the desire for a “perfect” man and a “perfect” wedding.
If the person is suitable, both families are satisfied, and you are reasonably prepared for the responsibilities of marriage, take the relationship seriously and move towards Nikah.
And to our brothers too: don't waste a sister's time. If your intention is marriage, be clear about it and take the necessary steps.
Three months is not a rule for everyone, but seriousness should be. May Allah bless our sisters and brothers with righteous spouses and make our marriages sources of sakīnah, love and barakah. Āmīn. 🤲❤️
Go into relationships with a destination—not just a duration.
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By: Qari Fajmal 💜