Pastor Grace Henshaw

05/10/2026

SHE KEPT CHOOSING THE SAME KIND OF PERSON.

Different men.

Same story.

They were emotionally unavailable. Controlling. Sometimes manipulative.

And somehow, she always found herself saying:

"Why does this keep happening to me?"

She blamed her luck.

She blamed men.

She blamed herself.

During healing, she discovered something uncomfortable:

Familiar can feel like love when you have not healed what made dysfunction familiar.

She began looking at her childhood, her emotional needs, her boundaries and the beliefs she had developed about herself.

For the first time, she understood that healing wasn't just about getting over what happened.

It was about understanding what happened inside her because of what happened to her.

Her relationships began to change when she began to change.

You cannot always choose a different life with the same unhealed patterns.

Our Basic Healing Program starts October 10th.

If you're tired of repeating emotional patterns you don't understand, this may be your starting point.

DM or WhatsApp: +234 816 656 7976.

05/10/2026

05/10/2026

YOU THOUGHT YOU ARE STRONG.

✨You survived the divorce.
✨You are raising the children.
✨You are back to work.

You smile. You pray. You show up for everyone.

But nobody knows you had become uncomfortable with intimacy.

You are struggling to trust people.
Whenever someone got too close, you pulled away.
You even thought it was wisdom.

You never realised it was a wound.
You have mastered the act of masking your pain by showing up with a smile that a careful look reveals never reflects in your eyes.

Healing will help you not weaken you.
Healing will keep you strong sometimes.

Survival may sometimes make you strong enough to function, but healing makes you free enough to live.

If you know you have been carrying emotional wounds for too long, our Basic Healing Program begins October 10th.

You don't have to keep surviving what you should be healing from.

Send a DM or WhatsApp me: +234 816 656 7976.

05/10/2026

“WHY AM I LIKE THIS?”

I get asked this question a lot.
Many people cannot understand why they are the way they are.
Why they act the way the do.
Why they attract the kind of people they attract.

They ask...
Why do I overthink?
Why am I afraid of rejection?
Why do I struggle to trust?
Why do I keep apologising when I haven't done anything wrong?
Why do I tolerate what hurts me?

It is on your healing journey where knowledge comes that some of these things become clearer.

You get to discover that many of your present reactions has a history.
You are not simply “too sensitive.”
You are not “difficult.”
You are not “broken.”

There were wounds underneath the behaviours.
And when the wounds begin to heal, the behaviours begin to change.

Sometimes you don't need another lecture about what you should do.
You need to understand what is happening inside you.

Basic Healing Program begins October 10th.
If this sounds like you, don't ignore the invitation.

DM or WhatsApp +234 816 656 7976.

05/10/2026

Are you carrying emotional pain that you’re tired of carrying alone?
Going through a situation you don't know how to handle?
You are carrying pain that keeps you awake and confused?
You are even doubting yourself and your faith?
All because of that unprocessed, misunderstood pain from abuse, divorce, separation, rejection etc.

That is why we have this Beauty for Ashes Healing Program. It is a 4-Week Emotional Healing & Transformation Certificate Program designed to help you understand your wounds, break unhealthy emotional patterns, rebuild your self-worth, and begin your journey toward healing and restoration.

📅 Starts: Saturday, 10th October 2026
⏰ 8:00 PM WAT
💻 100% Online
💵₦20, 000.00

You don’t have to suffer alone. ❤️
👉 Join the waiting room:
https://chat.whatsapp.com/EAluLdWc6qs66Ke9LaCrgm

Or WhatsApp +234 816 656 7976 to register.

05/10/2026

BEAUTY FOR ASHES EMOTIONAL HEALING DEVOTIONAL💡
‎📝Pastor Grace Henshaw
‎Bershyl Renewed Haven
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‎WHEN FEAR KEEPS YOU SMALL
‎(Breaking Forth From the Fear of What Might Happen)
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‎SCRIPTURES(KJV)
‎“For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” 2 Timothy 1:7
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‎“The fear of man bringeth a snare: but whoso putteth his trust in the LORD shall be safe.” Proverbs 29:25
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‎“Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me...” Psalm 23:4
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‎Fear can become an invisible prison.
‎Sometimes nothing is physically holding you back, yet you remain afraid to move. 👉You want to start again, but you remember how badly the last attempt ended. 👉You want to love again, but you remember the betrayal.👉 You want to speak, but you remember being ridiculed. 👉You want to take a step forward, but your mind keeps asking, “What if it happens again?” THAT IS FEAR SPEAKING.
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‎Fear often makes us choose what is familiar over what is healthy. It can make you stay in places you have outgrown, reject opportunities before trying, hide your gifts, avoid relationships, or constantly prepare for disaster even when nothing is happening.
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‎But fear is not meant to govern your life.
‎Dont let it. Because God has given you power, love and a sound mind.
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‎Breaking forth does not mean that you will never feel afraid. It means fear no longer gets to make every decision for you.
‎You can acknowledge what happened without allowing it to dictate what happens next. There is a life beyond the things you are afraid of.
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‎You shall break forth. Break out of that fear in the name of Jesus.
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‎🫒HEALING ACTION
‎1. Think about one thing you have been avoiding because you are afraid of what might happen.
‎Write it down.
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‎2. Then ask yourself:
‎“Is this fear based on what is happening now, or is it based mainly on what happened before?”
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‎3. Pray over that fear today. Hand it over to God.
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‎4. Then take one safe, healthy and intentional step toward the thing you have been avoiding. It may be making a phone call, having a necessary conversation, applying for an opportunity, setting a boundary, beginning something new, or simply allowing yourself to hope again.
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‎You don't have to take ten steps today.
‎TAKE JUST ONE.
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‎🙏PRAYER POINTS
‎1. Father, deliver me from every fear that has kept me emotionally and mentally confined. 2 Timothy 1:7
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‎2. Lord, heal the experiences that taught me to expect danger even when I am safe. Psalm 23:4
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‎3. My Father, break the power of the fear of rejection, failure, abandonment and disappointment over my life. Psalm 56:3
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‎4. O God, give me courage to take healthy steps forward instead of allowing fear to make my decisions for me. Joshua 1:9
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‎5. Lord, deliver me from the fear of people's opinions and approval.
‎Proverbs 29:25
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‎6. Father, renew my mind wherever fear has distorted my perception of my future.
‎Romans 12:2
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‎✨💪AFFIRMATION
‎Fear will not be the master of my life.
‎I can acknowledge my past without being controlled by it.
‎God has given me power, love and a sound mind.
‎I am courageous enough to take the next healthy step.
‎I am breaking forth from fear and moving forward in faith.
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04/10/2026

In the places where you have faced disappointment there God will make you laugh.

Someone has been agitating about something. Your heart keeps skipping. God says to tell you to relax. Thank Him because He is taking over.

Do have a blessed week.

04/10/2026

‎💡BEAUTY FOR ASHES EMOTIONAL HEALING DEVOTIONAL💡
‎📝Pastor Grace Henshaw
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‎BREAKING THE CYCLE OF REJECTION
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‎SCRIPTURES (KJV)
‎“When my father and my mother forsake me, then the LORD will take me up.”
‎Psalm 27:10
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‎“I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.”
‎ Hebrews 13:5
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‎“To the praise of the glory of his grace, wherein he hath made us accepted in the beloved.” Ephesians 1:6
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‎Rejection can leave a deeper wound than the moment itself. It can define how you see yourself.
‎Sometimes it is not simply what someone did, it is what their rejection made you believe about yourself.
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‎👉You were left, so you concluded, “I am not worth staying for.”
‎👉You were excluded, so you began to believe, “I don't belong anywhere.”
‎👉You were repeatedly rejected, so you learned to withdraw before anyone could reject you again.
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‎📌And sometimes rejection becomes a cycle. You crave acceptance, tolerate unhealthy treatment, overgive, people-please, or constantly seek reassurance because somewhere within you is still the question: “Am I enough?”
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‎But God's acceptance is not something you have to earn.
‎People may reject you. Relationships may end. Doors may close. But none of these things can cancel your worth before God.
‎The Lord says, “I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.”
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‎Healing means learning that someone's inability to receive, value or love you appropriately does not determine your value.
‎You don't have to spend your life auditioning for acceptance.
‎You are already accepted in the Beloved.
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‎🫒HEALING ACTION
‎1. Today, identify one way rejection has affected your behaviour.
‎✨Have you become a people-pleaser?
‎✨Do you find it difficult to say no?
‎✨Do you tolerate poor treatment because you are afraid of being abandoned?
‎✨Do you constantly need reassurance?
‎✨Do you withdraw before people can get close?
‎Write down what you recognize.
‎2.Then complete this statement:
‎“Because I was rejected, I learned to __________. But I no longer need to __________ in order to be worthy of love and acceptance.”
‎3. Today, practice one small act of healthy self-respect. Say no where you need to say no, express your honest feelings, or stop chasing someone's approval.
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‎🙏PRAYER POINTS
‎1. My Father, heal every wound of rejection that has affected the way I see myself. Psalm 147:3
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2. Lord, uproot every lie that rejection has planted in my heart about my worth.
‎Ephesians 1:6
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‎3. My Father, deliver me from the need to earn people's acceptance through people-pleasing, overgiving or self-abandonment. Galatians 1:10
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4. Lord, heal the fear of abandonment that causes me to hold onto relationships that are unhealthy for me. Hebrews 13:5
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5. Give me wisdom to recognize relationships where I am valued, respected and treated with godly love.
‎Proverbs 13:20
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‎6. Father, teach me to receive my identity and security from You rather than from human approval. Psalm 118:8
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‎🙏AFFIRMATION
‎I am not rejected by God.
‎Another person's inability to value me does not determine my worth.
‎I do not have to earn love by abandoning myself.
‎I am accepted, valued and deeply loved by God.
‎I am breaking free from the cycle of rejection and learning to walk in healthy love and self-respect.

03/10/2026

Motivation can only carry so far. The speed from motivation gets sustained by DISCIPLINE. And lasting sustainable results come from DISCIPLINE.

03/10/2026

‎💡BEAUTY FOR ASHES EMOTIONAL HEALING DEVOTIONAL💡
‎📝Pastor Grace Henshaw
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‎YOU ARE NOT YOUR WOUND
‎(Breaking Forth From a Painful Identity)
‎SCRIPTURES (KJV)

‎“I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made...” Psalm 139:14
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‎“For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works...”
‎Ephesians 2:10
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‎"Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.”
‎2 Corinthians 5:17
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‎Sometimes pain does more than hurt us, it begins to tell us who we are.
‎👉After repeated rejection, you may begin to call yourself unwanted.
‎👉After betrayal, you may see yourself as unlovable.
‎👉After failure, you may begin to believe you are a failure.
‎👉After years of criticism, you may struggle to see anything good in yourself.

‎But what happened to you is not who you are. A wound is something you experienced. It is not your identity.
‎✅You may have been rejected, but you are not rejection.
‎✅You may have been betrayed, but you are not betrayal.
‎✅You may have failed, but you are not a failure.
‎✅You may have been abandoned, but you are not abandoned.
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‎God's definition of you is greater than the labels pain has placed upon you.
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‎✨✨✨You are His workmanship. You were created with purpose. There may be places in you that still need healing, but broken places do not cancel your worth.
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‎This is part of breaking forth: breaking away from the identity that pain gave you and receiving the identity God gives you.
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‎🫒HEALING ACTION
‎1. Today, write down three negative labels you have unconsciously accepted about yourself because of painful experiences.
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‎For example:

‎- “I am not enough.”
‎- “Nobody will ever truly love me.”
‎- “I always ruin everything.”
‎2. Beside each one, write a truth from God's Word that contradicts it.
3. Whenever the old label returns, deliberately speak the truth instead.

‎You are not required to keep introducing yourself by the name your pain gave you. Introduce yourself as God says.
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‎🙏PRAYER POINTS
‎1. My Father, heal every place where painful experiences have distorted my identity. Psalm 147:3
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‎2. Lord, help me see myself through Your eyes rather than through the opinions and rejection of people. Psalm 139:14

‎3. I reject every false identity that pain, rejection, failure or abuse has placed upon me. 2 Corinthians 5:17

‎4. My Father, restore my sense of worth and help me understand that my life has value and purpose. Ephesians 2:10

‎5. Lord, silence every voice that continually tells me that I am not enough.
‎Isaiah 54:17
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‎6. Give me grace to become comfortable with who You created me to be.
‎2 Corinthians 3:18
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‎✨💪AFFIRMATION
‎I am more than what happened to me.
I am not defined by rejection, failure, betrayal or pain.
‎I am God's workmanship, created with purpose and value.
‎I am learning to see myself through His eyes.
‎My wounds may be part of my story, but they will never be my identity.
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