17/09/2026
Not all helping is helpful. 🦋
Sometimes the fixing, the advice, the jumping in before anyone’s asked... isn’t generosity. It’s what your nervous system does instead of sitting with the discomfort of watching someone you love struggle.
It’s not a character flaw. It’s a strategy you built early, probably somewhere you learned that someone else’s pain was yours to manage.
Real support doesn’t require you to disappear. You can care about someone and still let them have their own feelings.
Save this for the next time you feel the urge to rescue. Share it with someone who over-gives. 💚