07/06/2026
Many of us spend years wondering why desire isn’t showing up more often, more strongly, or in the way we think it should.
We start to feel that it is a reflection of our strengths and failures; that having a high libido means we are winning at life and a low libido means we are failing.
But what if we flip the guilt around, and see libido as a reflection of how safe, connected, rested, playful, and at home in your body you are in a given time, and how much you are carrying hormonally, stress-wise, and mental load wise?
Sometimes a low libido really is just a reflection exhaustion, stress, resentment, grief, hormonal shifts, illness, or simply a season of life where other needs are asking to be heard first.
Rather than asking, “What’s wrong with my libido?”
Try asking:
“What might my libido be telling me about my life right now?”
You may be surprised by the answer.