22/05/2026
I missed my sons’ piano performance, basketball tournament, and another piano festival.
No matter how hard I try to control everything, there will always be times I can’t. I used to feel annoyed. But my feelings don’t change anything.
So I am learning to repair instead. Dr. Edward’s research shows that what builds secure attachment is not perfect attendance, but the repair after the rupture.
My repair: picking him up from school. Look how his eyes spark..
Turns out maybe they don’t need us at everything. They need to feel that we see what was missed, and that they matter.
“You may dislike something although it is good for you, and like something although it is bad for you. Allah knows and you do not know.” (QS. Al-Baqarah 2:216)