04/22/2026
🌟 Embrace True Kindness! 🌟
Self denial isn’t the kindness you might think it is—it’s people pleasing. 💡
It’s okay to proactively care for yourself with others.
Here are 12 signs you might be a people pleaser:
1. You say yes too often.
🌱What to do: Plan to say no more often than yes. Practice saying, “Thank you for considering me for that, but I don’t have capacity right now.”
2. You apologize unnecessarily.
🌱What to do: Shift your language to be kind without self-diminishing: “I an happy to own my part, can we discuss your role in this?”
3. You take on the emotions of others.
🌱What to do: Remember, their feelings are often about them, not you.
4. You keep quiet to avoid conflict.
🌱What to do: Get comfortable voicing your opinion assertively. It’s okay to say, “When we avoid these conversations, it affects [the relationship, the work environment, or specific outcomes]. I think it’s important for us to communicate openly and to address any issues directly.”
5. You struggle to set boundaries.
🌱What to do: Be firm but fair, “I am not open to that; here’s my limit” without over-explaining.
6. You avoid asking for help.
🌱What to do: Begin with small requests, like asking for a favor.
7. You feel guilty for self-care.
🌱What to do: Reframe self-care as self-respect. YOU are the source …refill frequently.
8. You constantly seek validation.
🌱What to do: Reflect on whether your actions are for you or for approval.
9. You’re drained from helping.
🌱What to do: Notice resentment—it’s a sign you’ve given too much.
10. You can’t make decisions alone.
🌱What to do: Trust your judgment by making small decisions solo.
11. You struggle to accept praise.
🌱What to do: No deflecting, simply say, “Thank you.”
12. You feel uneasy if others are upset.
🌱What to do: Accept that discomfort is temporary and can be good. You can’t control other people’s feelings & moods. Shift out of discomfort by staying present with difficult feelings, instead of avoiding.
Thanks for the reminder. 🙏🏼
