08/09/2026
1/3 Having little kids, in the field of work I am in, my mind probably needs to be studied😆I’ve been thinking A LOT about how when we are little, there is such a deep need for validation, acceptance, approval, and connection especially from our caregivers. We look to them to tell us that we’re okay, that we’re lovable, that we are safe, that we belong, that we’re good enough, that we matter...while we’re living in a world where that may be viewed as soft or permissive. And when we don’t receive those things in the way we needed to, I think something can happen where we grow up and we’re still looking for it...in the same ways. And this is where I think a generational piece becomes so interesting, because if we never heal that wound, we can unconsciously carry it forward. We can keep seeking approval, looking outside of ourselves for our worth, needing someone else to tell us we’re enough, and then our children can grow up watching us do the same thing. They learn from what we live, not just what we say. Because if you’re still looking outside of yourself for acceptance, your children are going to experience that in some way. They’re going to see you needing approval, needing to be chosen, needing someone else to tell you who you are. And then they learn that. And then they grow up and do the same thing. And round and round it goes. But here’s the thing I keep coming back to… what if the validation we’re still waiting for doesn’t actually have to come from anyone else anymore? What if it can come from us/ourselves? What if you can look at yourself and say, I see you. I accept you. I love you. You don’t have to earn your place here. You don’t have to be perfect for me to love you. You don’t have to make me proud. You don’t have to prove anything.. we can start giving ourselves the thing we’ve been chasing for years.
If this hit something in you, maybe just sit with it for a moment. And ask yourself… what am I still hoping someone else will give me that I’m actually ready to start giving myself?
Love you🫶🏽