07/08/2026
Often times, giving warnings to your child before using a consequence can help them engage in an appropriate response.
But how many of you have noticed that when you give your child multiple warnings, nothing seems to change?
Here is a warning about using warnings: If we give warnings with no follow through, children notice. Children are smart and quickly learn that the first, second, or even third warnings often do not count if we are inconsistent. A child will quickly learn that they only need to listen when you are at your limit and that a consequence is near.
The most common example I give parents is the counting method. Many parents use the counting method (i.e., counting to three before a consequence is given) to help warn their child that a consequence is near. When the counting starts, many children learn that they do not actually have to respond to the counting until their parent reaches the number 3.
Parenting Tip: Instead of using multiple warnings, give a simple, clear instruction. If your child does not follow through, give a calm, neutral warning. Once you have given a warning, and nothing has changed, follow through with a planned consequence consistently.
When we are consistent, our children learn that our words (and our warnings) have meaning and that we are predictable. Discipline is not about being harsh - it is often about being calm, clear, and consistent.
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