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Sometimes the most therapeutic thing I can say is: you don't have to feel better right now.Not every hard moment needs t...
06/03/2026

Sometimes the most therapeutic thing I can say is: you don't have to feel better right now.
Not every hard moment needs to be fixed or reframed or pushed through. Sometimes it just needs to be survived. Breathed through. Sat with.
If you're in one of those moments today — this is for you. You don't have to be okay. You just have to keep breathing. 🤍

Survivors in extreme situations talk to themselves. Out loud, sometimes. Not in a "I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, an...
06/01/2026

Survivors in extreme situations talk to themselves. Out loud, sometimes. Not in a "I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and doggone it, people like me" way — but in a gritty, coaching-yourself-through-a-hard-round way.
More like: "You've done hard things before. You can do this next part."
That's not toxic positivity. That's your nervous system getting what it needs to keep going.
In therapy I sometimes ask clients what they'd say to a close friend facing what they're facing. The answer is almost never "think positive!" It's usually something much more honest — and much more useful. What would you say to someone you love who was right where you are?
Try saying that to yourself.

That's a wrap: Seven lessons from survival psychology, inspired by Michael Tougias's Extreme Survival. All of them true in the therapist's office too. I hope something here was useful.

When someone is diagnosed with a serious illness, something unexpected often happens. They start learning. Really learni...
05/31/2026

When someone is diagnosed with a serious illness, something unexpected often happens. They start learning. Really learning — about their diagnosis, their treatment options, their body, their medical team. They connect with others who've been through it. They ask better questions. They build a network. They become experts in a field they never wanted to be in...
Survival researchers call this preparation. I call it wisdom in real time.
My clients in cancer support groups become extraordinary resources for each other — sharing what helped, what didn't, what questions to ask, what side effects to watch for. That knowledge doesn't just inform decisions. It restores a sense of agency when so much feels out of control.
You may not be able to control what's happening. But you can become an expert in navigating it. 🌿
(Inspired by Michael Tougias's Extreme Survival*)

Survivors who make it aren't necessarily the ones with the best plan. They're the ones willing to abandon a plan that is...
05/28/2026

Survivors who make it aren't necessarily the ones with the best plan. They're the ones willing to abandon a plan that isn't working.
They avoid the sunk cost fallacy — the tendency to keep pouring energy into something because we've already invested so much. In a survival situation, that thinking can be fatal. In everyday life, it just keeps us stuck.
This shows up in therapy constantly. The relationship that isn't working. The role you've outgrown, the boundary that needs strengthening. The expectation that was never yours in the first place. Flexibility isn't giving up. It's intelligence.
What are you holding onto that might be worth putting down? 🌸
(Inspired by Michael Tougias's Extreme Survival*)

In extreme survival situations, researchers have documented something remarkable: people often report a felt sense of pr...
05/24/2026

In extreme survival situations, researchers have documented something remarkable: people often report a felt sense of presence alongside them — a guide, a voice, something that steadied them in their darkest moment. It's one of the most documented and least explained phenomena in survival psychology.
In my work with clients facing serious illness, I hear versions of this too. A sense that something is with them. Call it what you will — faith, love, grace, the people who've gone before. The experience of not being utterly alone changes what we're able to bear. 🌿
You don't have to name it. You just have to let it in.
(Inspired by Michael Tougias's Extreme Survival*)

Survivors in crisis do something most of us forget: they stop spending energy on what they can't change, and put everyth...
05/23/2026

Survivors in crisis do something most of us forget: they stop spending energy on what they can't change, and put everything into what they can. It sounds simple. It's one of the hardest mental shifts there is — and one of the most useful. What's one thing in your situation that's actually yours to influence? Start there. 🌸(Inspired by Michael Tougias's Extreme Survival*)

In life-or-death situations, the people who make it almost always have a reason. A person. A promise. Something unfinish...
05/20/2026

In life-or-death situations, the people who make it almost always have a reason. A person. A promise. Something unfinished. Purpose isn't a luxury — it turns out it's a survival tool. You don't have to be stranded on a mountain for this to matter. What's yours? 🌿 (Inspired by Michael Tougias's Extreme Survival*)

I've been thinking about Extreme Survival by Michael Tougias — and how much survival psychology overlaps with what I see...
05/16/2026

I've been thinking about Extreme Survival by Michael Tougias — and how much survival psychology overlaps with what I see in therapy every day. First in a series.
Researchers who study extreme survival — people lost at sea, stranded on mountains — found that what separates those who make it isn't physical strength. It's mental strategy. The biggest one? Breaking time into tiny pieces. Not survive the week — just survive this hour.
Sound familiar? It's the same thing I say to clients navigating grief, burnout, or a hard season of life. You don't have to see the whole path. Just the next step. 🌸

Your brain is very convincing. But "I'm not good enough," "this will never get better," "I'm a burden" — those are thoug...
05/13/2026

Your brain is very convincing. But "I'm not good enough," "this will never get better," "I'm a burden" — those are thoughts, not truths.
You don't have to believe everything you think. 🤍
What's one thought you're ready to stop treating as fact?

When anxiety spikes, your nervous system needs a signal that you're safe. This simple breathing technique is one of the ...
05/10/2026

When anxiety spikes, your nervous system needs a signal that you're safe. This simple breathing technique is one of the fastest ways to send it.
Inhale 4. Hold 7. Exhale 8. Repeat.
Save this for the next time you need it. 💚

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