08/05/2026
I haven’t posted for a few days because I have been decompressing from a traumatic incident.
A few days ago I found myself, along with others, hiding from a sho0ter in a small restaurant employee meeting room at the mall near where I live.
I called my husband from inside the room because I wasn’t totally sure we would all make it out. We weren’t sure whether this was a targeted shooting directed at one person or a mass shooting spree.
The whole incident was terrifying, confusing and surreal.
I have had some decompressing to do. I found myself leaning into strategies I have taught my students and patients for years. They have been extremely helpful. Though there are many others, these were the ones that made a real difference for me in the last few days:
- I allowed myself to cry; to shake; to feel the fear. I know then when we try to stifle those emotions that they tend to get stuck in our bodies.
- I shared my feelings about my experience initially only with people I trusted. I didn’t edit.
- I journaled without editing. These unfiltered vents helped me ‘get it outside of myself’ so that bi could see it with greater clarity.
- After these initial vents, I remembered there is a difference between reliving/re-traumatizing myself and actually processing the trauma. So I endeavored to make my self-talk include helpful planned action rather than just ruminating about what happened. Instead of just replaying it over and over in my mind, I’m saying, “Ok, this *did* happen and it *was* terrifying, so what can I do right now to help myself and calm my nervous system?”
- I’m seeking to make sure my conversation is geared toward supporting my healing. Though we can’t talk our way out of a trauma response, (or vicarious trauma) because it’s not just in our mind but also in our body, how we talk about it to ourselves and others can help worsen or mitigate those responses.
- I splashed very cold water on my face, while holding my breath for 15 to 30 seconds at a time (not recommended if you have heart rhythm issues). This kicked in the ‘diver’s reflex’, which calms the nervous system.
- I meditated, focusing on my body being grounded, here now and safe.
- Along with meditation, I did some alternate nasal breathing, which can significantly reduce stress because it helps to balance the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems.
- I got out in nature and walked.
- I supported myself nutritionally to help my emotional health, including extra B vitamins.
- I was having trouble sleeping, so I tried to nap when I could.
- I focused on my out-breath when memories would flood in. This helped calm the flight, fight and freeze response.
- I massaged Heart 7, CV 17, PC 6, and’s KI 1 acupuncture points (you can look these up online). I also put acupressure pellets in my ear NADA trauma points to help calm my body and mind.
- I did some EFT ‘tapping’ along with a little EMDR for emotional release. Again, these techniques can be found online.
I’m sure I did some other things that are habit for me after so many years, but I thought I’d share these since Interpreters sometimes have to process really difficult things. I hope you find them helpful. I also hope you never need them for something really acute.
Interestingly, one of the things that helped me the most was helping my one and a half month old granddaughter. She had spit up a significant amount – enough that it was scary for her. I went to lay her down to clean her up and her ‘fall reflex’ triggered. The look of terror that came across her face and her entire body reaction was enough for me to scoop her back into my arms, (throw-up and all) to comfort her. I heard myself saying to her, “It’s all right baby. You’re safe. It’s over. It’s over baby. You’re safe. You’re safe.” and suddenly my brain and my entire body heard that all the way to my bones.