01/27/2026
In medicine, silence is not neutral. As Elie Wiesel reminded us, “Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented.” Our profession has long anchored itself in the Hippocratic call to first, do no harm. To my patients who are immigrants, marginalized, or underserved: I am here for you and stand with you, and weap with you.
Many faith traditions echo the importance of caring for humanity, especially the less fortunate. What is happening right now, is not ok. I plead on the most moral and ethical level that we choose humanity, kindness, and care. The Bible calls us to care for our shared humanity and for those in need—reminding us that how we treat others defines who we are. In choosing care over silence, we uphold both our oath and our humanity.
I’ve seen posts from healthcare workers stating they wish ill on the oppressors (and they are losing their jobs over this). To my patients who voted differently than me, I hope this post reaches you, too, for this reason. My oath is still the same: to provide the best possible care to every patient, without exception or qualification. Care is not conditional on beliefs, politics, or roles. Whether a neighbor, or stranger, or differing views, every person who comes to us is worthy of dignity, skill, and compassion. All are welcome. Especially those in greatest need and marginalized, but everyone is, without exception.
I do wish though, that Alex could have lived to do the same, instead of being murdered. Your healthcare community stands united with you. May your memory be a blessing to all who knew you. “Look for the helpers” said Mr Rogers. If we helpers could feel safe and protected while providing the help our hearts call us to serve, that would be great.
"I do not throw around the hero term lightly. However his last thought and act was to protect a woman."
These words from Alex Pretti's parents, Michael and Susan, cut to the heart of everything.
Alex saw a federal agent pepper-spray a woman in the face, and guided her to the sidewalk away from danger. He saw another woman violently shoved to the ground by the same faceless coward and he didn't hesitate.
He stepped between them, using his body to protect her, raising his arms, his phone in one hand, the other empty and open, trying to deescalate a situation rapidly made dangerous by a man out of control. An armored thug, enraged by a man blocking him from reaching the woman he wanted to punish -- the woman who had dared to blow a whistle at him. And for that, they killed him.
One commentator observed how this moment of heroism encapsulated the contrast between real and false masculinity. The fragile masculinity of the faceless coward who attacked the vulnerable and executed the man who stood up for them -- versus the quiet courage of Alex Pretti. The healer who tried to protect while the agent raged.
"When I think about the 'crisis of masculinity' and the need for boys to have a healthy concept of masculine virtue," Amanda G. wrote, "I think of men who use their strength to help others. A good man is a man who helps people weaker than him or worse off than him: carries an exhausted child, reaches the stuff others can’t reach, controls his temper, uses his voice and presence to help, not hurt, and stands up to bullies. That’s the kind of men that are in my family and it’s the kind I am proud that my son is becoming. It's the kind of man Alex Pretti was.
A strong man in life's prime, working as a nurse, and showing up in a volatile scene to put himself between women and a jackboot who was shoving them around. He didn't swing a punch, he just stepped in to deescalate, to use his man's body as a shield for a person knocked to the ground. And the government that has forged itself into the grotesque inverse of that manly virtue executed him on the street for it."
This is the choice America faces: the healer or the thug. The protector or the executioner. Alex made his choice.
Now we make ours: stand with the heroes or the faceless cowards.
--> Here's how to take action against this lawlessness: Congress must fund the Department of Homeland Security by January 30, and spending bills require 60 votes in the Senate.
* Call your Senators at (202) 224-3121. Demand no DHS funding until ICE and Border Patrol are reined in and an independent investigation is launched into the killings of Alex Pretti and Renee Good.
* Call your Representative and demand real oversight of these lawless agencies -- and an independent investigation into the killings of American citizens by DHS agents.
To support the GoFundMe campaign for Alex's family, visit https://www.gofundme.com/f/alex-pretti-is-an-american-hero
To join with others in your community who are standing up for democracy and the rule of law, you can find an Indivisible in your area at https://indivisible.org/groups
Supporting civil rights organizations like the ACLU that challenge DHS in court is one of the most effective ways to constrain their expanding power -- learn more at https://www.aclu.org/issues/immigrants-rights/immigrants-rights-and-detention
The New York Times has released frame-by-frame video analysis bringing together all observer footage of Alex Pretti's murder: https://www.nytimes.com/video/us/100000010668660/new-video-analysis-reveals-flawed-and-fatal-decisions-in-shooting-of-pretti.html?smid=url-share
For books for children and teens about the importance of standing up for truth, decency, and justice, even in dark times, visit our blog post, "Dissent Is Patriotic: 50 Books About Women Who Fought for Change," at https://www.amightygirl.com/blog?p=14364
For books for tweens and teens about girls living under real-life authoritarian regimes throughout history that will help them appreciate how precious democracy truly is, visit our blog post "The Fragility of Freedom: Mighty Girl Books About Life Under Authoritarianism" at https://www.amightygirl.com/blog?p=32426
For children's books that encourage empathy and understanding of Mighty Girl immigrants of the past and present, visit our blog post, "A New Land, A New Life: 25 Mighty Girl Books About the Immigrant Experience" at https://www.amightygirl.com/blog?p=12855
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