The Ross Wellness Group

10/13/2026

10/12/2026

The stuff I regret most didn’t come from not caring.

It came from moving too fast to notice what I was doing.

Speed feels productive. Sometimes it’s just a way to outrun the thing you don’t want to feel.

Meanwhile this guy sat next to four lanes of traffic and did not hurry once.

10/09/2026

You don’t need a diagnosis, a rock bottom, or a good reason.

“Something’s off and I’m tired of it” is plenty.

The first call is free and runs 20 to 30 minutes. No couch. No homework. Just a conversation about what’s going on and whether I’m the right guy for it.

Ohio, Florida, Indiana, Virginia, and Kentucky. Link in bio.

10/08/2026

We've been doing something at home.

Thirty minutes where she's in charge.

I don't teach, fix, or steer. I just follow.

I figured it was for her.

Then she started asking for it. And I started learning things about my kid I didn't know. Somehow I love her more than I already did.

Here's the part that got me. This was available the whole time. Any day I wanted it.
You don't need a free weekend. You need thirty minutes and to let them drive.

10/06/2026

most guys I talk to aren’t isolated. They’ve got people. Plenty of them.

What they don’t have is anyone who knows what this year has actually been like.

Liz and I spent a whole episode on that gap. Loneliness, friendship, and why “I’m good man” keeps everybody at arms length.

Thoughtfully Wired, episode 5. Link in bio.

10/05/2026

Made the top ten. Still surprised.

Most days I don’t feel like the dad in the title. I struggle with consistency. I struggle with keeping my cool.

I’d tell any guy in my office that showing up on those days is the job. Harder to say it to myself.

If you keep a list of every way you fall short as a dad, you’re probably doing more than you think.

Contest link is in my bio.

10/02/2026

Most of my life I’ve treated hard feelings like problems. Find the root. Then the root of the root. Keep moving.

It works at work. It doesn’t work here.

Two rooms in two weeks, talking about the two losses that have shaped me most, and there was nothing to fix. Just the thing itself, and a room full of people carrying their own.

That’s what I keep coming back to. Sitting in it is the work, not something you get through before the work starts.

If you’re carrying something you keep trying to solve, you don’t have to solve it to talk about it.

10/01/2026

Yes to the extra shift.

Yes to hosting.

Yes to "whatever you want is fine."

He's not a pushover. He's keeping the peace.

Saying no feels like rocking the boat, so he'd rather carry it than start something.

But the needs don't go away. They go quiet.

Then they come back as resentment, usually over something small, usually at the worst time.

The fix isn't learning to say no. It's learning to add the "and."

Yes, I'll host. And I need Sunday to myself.

Yes, whatever you want. And here's what I'd pick.

Borrowed that from Ted Lasso. Still working on it myself.

If he's the yes guy in your life, send him this. Not as a critique. As permission.

09/30/2026

Most guys I work with didn't come in because something broke. They came in because keeping it from breaking got exhausting.

That's the part nobody sees. The hours, the drink, the scrolling, the fixing. From the outside it looks like a man who has it handled. From the inside it's a second full time job.

Terry Real named this "covert depression" in I Don't Want to Talk About It. The depression is real. It's just wearing a work shirt.

If you're tired of performing, the first call is free. 20 to 30 minutes. Link in bio.

And if this sounds like someone you love, send it to him.

09/28/2026

I say it too. Probably faster than anyone I work with.

“I’m good, man” isn’t dishonest. It’s just quick. Quick enough that you never have to stop and check whether it’s true.

Terry Real calls the version of depression that hides behind a guy doing fine “covert depression.” His book I Don’t Want to Talk About It has been naming this for almost thirty years. All credit to him. Worth your time.

Liz and I got into this on the latest Thoughtfully Wired: having people around you versus actually feeling connected to them, and how the words we default to decide what we let ourselves feel.

Next time somebody asks, slow it down by one second. See what shows up.