06/12/2026
After getting a concussion in PT school, I had a slew of symptoms that never fully went away.
For years, I didn’t tell anybody, even my closest friends. The only person who really knew I was having symptoms was my husband.
I didn’t even think it was weird.
Until 2020, when I was having daily migraines from the stress, and my husband asked, “How come you’re not telling your family? How come you won’t tell your friends when we’re hanging out that you’re having a debilitating headache or migraine? Or that you can’t sit in the seat facing the sun because it will trigger a headache?”
And I realized he was right.
I would rather get the headache than be an inconvenience or admit that I was having symptoms of any kind.
I would mask my symptoms and pretend everything was fine. I was happy and excited to be with people, but I was also in a lot of pain all the time.
And I didn’t even know that I could tell people I wasn’t fine.
This is the experience of so many people with chronic pain.
It’s one of the reasons I ask my patients multiple times how they’re actually feeling. I want them to have permission to tell me what their body is feeling and to know they’ll be believed.
But it’s so hard to admit you’re not fine.
And I get it.
Anybody else?