02/28/2026
What exactly is a late bloomer? We use this word frequently to talk about the development of children and teens. I often hear parents say, “I was a late bloomer too.” What exactly are they talking about?
Humans development in several different areas. When we talk about “late bloomers“ we often mean their growth in one or more domains happens later than peers, but is still within a typical developmental trajectory. This could be cognitive, emotional, social, or physical. This is about timing, not deficits.
If your child or teen is insecure or asking questions about their development, your stance is to reassure. Some things to say might sound like:
🔹” I can see why that might bother you, but I can assure you that you will get there in time. I am not worried about it for you. This parental reassurance can regulate a child who is worried.
🔹” I know you’re worried about it, but everyone grows in different ways at different times. Look at your friends! Nick has grown physically first and is much taller than everyone else, but he has a hard time talking to girls. Your friend Sam has absolutely no problem talking to girls but is the shortest one of the group.“ This gives your child real life examples that reassure and make sense of developmental differences.
🔹 “As your mom/dad, I’m not particularly worried about that for you, but if you want we can ask Dr. (pediatrician) about at your next visit?” This shows that you hear the concern and you are willing to layer on the reassurance for your child.
As always, pediatricians and therapists are your teammates in reassuring and educating children and teens about development! Never hesitate to ask for assistance if you find yourself stuck with some of these tough questions.
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Do NOT say:
🚩”Don’t worry about it.”
🚩”Don’t think about that.”
🚩”Who cares if you’re _____”
🚩”It’s fine. Everyone feels that way.”
