06/04/2026
One of the biggest lessons I learned from spending 14 years behind the chair wasn't about hair... it was about people.
Women talk when they feel safe.
A salon chair becomes a place where people set down what they're carrying. The stress. The marriage. The family drama. The heartbreak. The dreams they haven't told anyone else.
And yes... Sometimes they talk about other people.
As a hairstylist, I heard it all.
But what I eventually realized is that what feels like a safe space isn't always a sacred one. You never really know who is listening. Stories travel. Words carry weight.
The funny thing is... I've been on both sides.
When my mom left when I was a teenager, my small hometown talked about it. For years I thought they were gossiping about me.
Then as an adult, I burned out and walked away from a career I truly loved. Not long after, my daughter's father died by su***de. My whole life changed.
People talked then too.
And over time, I realized something that softened my heart...
Many of them weren't being malicious. They cared. They were worried. They wanted to know if I was okay. They were trying to understand something that didn't make sense.
Working as a hairstylist, then becoming a spiritual coach, a Reiki teacher, trauma informed, meditation guide, and sound healer has taught me that there is a huge difference between processing and projecting.
I don't think most people gossip because they're bad people.
I think they're carrying emotions that don't have a proper container.
But I have learned to trust my intuition around people who constantly center conversations around others.
Because healing eventually shifts the question from:
"Did you hear what happened to them?"
to
"What is this bringing up inside of me?"
Real healing spaces don't teach us to analyze other people's lives.
They teach us to become brave enough to sit with our own.
💜
